Spending The Holidays Without Someone You Love


I am reposting this just in time for Christmas! 

The holidays are a time to spend with those you love. With Christmas fast approaching the holidays can be bittersweet for me.

I am incredibly blessed. I have two parents that consists of a father and a step mom. And a set of in laws. A beautiful sister. Plus sister in laws and brother in laws and step sisters and step brothers. Plus a husband and my own kids. And tons of aunts, uncles and cousins. It’s a full family. But a gorgeous one.

Well, I’m not gonna lie, with this size comes some level of crazy. I joke many times and say “We put the Fun in dysfunctional!” But I know I’m blessed to have so many souls who surround me. Especially during the holidays.

Five years ago I lost my mom. My real mom. The mom who gave birth to me.

But I didn’t lose her in death. I lost her emotionally.

Five years ago I had to let my mom go. I had to release her from my life. I had to halt a relationship with her.

The truth is this relationship was never healthy. My mom was an abusive parent. Throughout my childhood she physically assaulted us and emotionally manipulated us and everyone around her.

I know she is unhealthy and needs help. And for many years of my adult life, regardless of my personal health, I set out to save her. To get her to a state of ok. To help her heal.

But as the saying goes, “You can lead a horse to water…”

After many years of personal investment into her well being I had to make a decision.

This decision came down to two parts:

1) Either accept her life that she was creating and stand beside her as she self destructed and blamed everyone except herself.

OR

2) Release her from my world.

I chose to release her.

In truth, the level of her emotional unsettle was affecting me more than anyone knows. I didn’t sleep. I didn’t eat. I sent money. I bought food. I created doctors and council appointments. I delivered her to said appointments.

Hell, I even let her move in with us after she struggled to get on her feet after a suicide attempt.

But despite all my doing, I was losing. Losing myself. Losing my marriage and losing my kids.

I was so damn set on giving her everything that she wanted that I was losing everything I wanted.

Meanwhile, she was fighting it every step of the way. Wanting more money. More time. More resources. Without ever taking personal accountability for self betterment.

One day, after several weeks of dating someone, she suddenly advised me that I didn’t need to bother helping her anymore because she had him now.

That was the day I got crystal clear on how this worked for her and that NONE of that worked for me. And never would.

I tried boundaries for awhile, but could never maintain them when it came to her. I wanted to. But somehow, whenever, she came around I was the 6 year old child wanting for her mama.

So I decide to release her. I have spent years and years working through the trauma and the pain she has caused, both from a child and then as an adult. And for the most part, I have healed.

Although sometimes the reality of my decision resurfaces.

During Christmas I know there is someone missing from my table. There is one person who regardless how she treated me, shares my DNA and is missing.

I would never change my decision. Not only did I make the decision to protect myself. I also made it to protect my marriage and my children.

No one will ever hurt neither of those things — regardless of their connection to my DNA!

And so each holiday season, I silently grieve. For the parent I have lost. For the parent I have had to release. For the parent who was never a parent at all. For the person who she will never be.

Today, I share love with all my friends who have had to make a similar decision of self preservation. I applaud you and hold you high as you stand in your decision.

I sit with you in your silent grief.

During the holiday season, there are many posts for those who have lost family members in death, but today I recognize all of you who have lost someone emotionally.

The grief is similar, but it also comes laced with a form of guilt that can be a burden.

Just please know, today and through out the holidays, you are not alone. And you are not being judged. Regardless of how or why you have made the decision you have made, know that I appreciate your struggle and am so damn proud of you.

No one can understand the choice we have made, until they need to make it. And my goal is never to validate my decisions to anyone, but instead to help others not feel alone.

So, to YOU, who have lost your parent emotionally, know you are not alone. Together, let’s share our grief.

And let’s share our love.

Thank you for sharing in my journey!

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Top Ten Favorite Inspirational Women of 2016: #1 – YOU

I could go on for days about all the women who inspire me each day. But my thesaurus is surely feeling the strain. (One can only put “amazing” into the thesaurus search engine so many times before it sighs and shuts down on you)

As a result, my number #1 Favorite Inspirational Woman of 2016 is YOU!!

Yep! YOU! 

Don’t look around the room … I am indeed talking to you!

Each week I come back to sit at my computer to create for YOU!  I sit here somedays with a flashing cursor asking for guidance on how I can help each and everyone of you. 

I always show up because YOU always show up. I always write because YOU always read it. 

I’ve said before, I started the blog to write whether anyone read it or not. I began writing to find my voice, to find my writing style and to practice my skill. 

But it’s turned into so much more because of all of you. I fell into blogging. That’s not a lie. 

However, I continue write because you all inspire me to do so. 

So … to each woman (or man *cough cough* Larry Wilda) who is here, hanging out, reading these words and smiling with me, laughing with me or even crying with me. Thank you. 

Thank you for showing up. Thank you for your encouragement and kindness and love. 

The collection of you gather here for different reasons. Some for love, some for inspiration, some for a giggle, some for happiness and some just to see what the hell I’ve got cookin’ now. (And who can blame them. I change directions more frequently than my underwear. #reallynotreally)

Whatever your reason for coming back each day, I thank you for making my 2016 extraordinary. Thank you for sharing my journey. 

Thank you for sharing my words with your friends and family. Thank you for inspiring me to show up and be heard. 

Thank you for sharing yourselves with me. 

Thank you for sharing your precious time with me. 

Our lives are busy, I know that, and somedays there is just not enough hours in the day. So when someone tells me they have “saved” my post to read while in the bathtub or on the treadmill, I am honoured. 

Ya’ll have found a place for me in your busy lives. You’ve accepted my voice and my writing into your homes and your routines. And I am beyond grateful. 

I’m looking forward to 2017.  I have plans to make this blog bigger and better. I have plans to create more bracelets. I have plans to share more love. More inspiration. More knowledge. 

It fires me up and I love what I do. 

BUT you all make it worthwhile. You all make me love what I do EVEN more. 

I thought I was wanted to write just for me, but when you all started rolling in and landing here, I have come to realize this is where I’m always wanted to be. Hanging out with you guys!  

We (you AND me) have created a gorgeous community of love, self acceptance and encouragement. It’s pretty incredible. It is my truest privilege to write for you.  

Thank you, from the bottom of my heart. THANK YOU!

I’m sending out my love to each and everyone who visits here. You are incredible, you are inspiration and I am truly blessed to be surrounded by each and everyone of you. 

MY offer to you:

The Empowerment Bracelet named “I love myself” is launching officially in the New Year. Just in time for New Years Resolutions. 


Bracelet Elements include:

  • 1″ – 2D Antique Silver Charm which showcases the “I love myself” empowerment phrase and my personal initials (lme❤️) creates the “ruffle” as the border
  • Bracelet Beads of Frosty Purple Agate Effloresce 
  • Beads are divided with silver flourish spacers to represent the Angel Number 3168 which is the Angel Number for self love. By drawing in the power of the angelic realm creates a higher energetic vibration to the bracelet and will assist you to stand in your power, be true to yourself, honor you, believe in your dreams and allow YOUR LIGHT TO BRIGHTLY SHINE. 

Aside from those who jumped on the preorder, these bracelets will not be available for purchase to the public until January 1(ish) but you have a chance to WIN ONE!

So you will want to jump on the chance to get one FIRST. 

To enter, please leave a comment on the bottom of THIS post. (Yes, comment right here on the blog) 

This giveaway will not appear anywhere else. 

Draw will be made Saturday, December 17 by 5 p.m. I will comment with the winner on this blog post so please check back and then message me with your mailing address. 

Once again, thanks for being here. 

Much love to you all this holiday season,

Top Ten Favorite Inspirational Women of 2016: #2 – Jodie Rollins

Wooooohoooo!! I’m so excited to write this one. Our #2 Favorite Inspirational Women is my beautiful coach Jodie Rollins. 

Let’s go on a little trip down memory lane, shall we?

It’s 2012…my friend Candace asks me if I want to go to the Body, Soul and Spirit Expo that is in Regina for the weekend. I review the show line-up to see who is going to be presenting and the face of the mighty Jodie Rollins jumps out to me as I scroll through. 

I had heard about Jodie through the Psychic Medium industry mill. I had heard she was incredible; that she made it look easy, so I definitely had to check her out for myself. 

I call Candace back and say “I’m in, but I HAVE to see this Jodie Rollins do her stage show!” 

Candace and I are front and center when Jodie hits the stage two days later. I went to see her “work” but I ended up falling in love with her. Girl crush?? Perhaps!

Yep, she rocks the shit out of her ability as a Psychic Medium no one can argue with that, but she was so much more than that too!

She’s was adorably peppy, kind and compassionate, absolutely hilarious, and authentic as hell!  

At one point during her show, I look to Candace and say, “I’m gonna be her BFF!”  

Candace giggles as she asks, “Do you know her?”  

“Nope.” I reply. “She doesn’t even see me coming.” And then Candace and I laugh and laugh and laugh. 

Fast forward two years: 

I know it’s time for me to move forward from my current coach. I had saturated all that she offered and I knew deep in my soul it was time for someone new. 

I do my check in with my soul and hear “She’s not in Canada.”  Aw sweet mercy, how in the heck am I supposed to find her. I tell my spiritual team to “Line her up. I’m ready!” 

And then I waited. 

And waited. 

And in truth, I got a bit impatient so I checked in again. And then I saw Jodie’s face, but I immediately dismissed it when my soul confirmed “You’re coach is not in Canada!” (Jodie worked in Saskatoon so I was certain it wasn’t her.)

And then when my patience were nearly maxed, I went for Reiki with Tina. Just before I get cozy on the bed and she is ready to dive into my energy, I say, “I’m looking for my coach. If she shows up while you’re working in there – let me know!”

Tina agrees and sets to work. Not even 10 minutes into my session she says “It’s Jodie Rollins.  You’re coach is Jodie.”  

I nearly bolt out of the bed, excited but thoroughly confused I say,”She can’t be…my coach doesn’t live in Canada.”

Tina smiles and then starts to giggle, “Mmmhmmm, well Jodie just moved to MEXICO!”  

Ahhhhhhh!  I was so damn excited. The woman whom I had admired for TWO years was my new coach. I could hardly contain myself. 

And the rest, as they say is history: 

Jodie is now living in Saskatoon once again and for the past two years I have coached with her. 

She had helped me hone my skills as a Psychic Medium, but in addition she has been the driving force in my personal self love campaign. 

In truth, there are not enough colourful adjectives to describe this woman. She is humble, she is hilarious, she is firm, yet caring and assuring. 

In the beginning, I worked with her on a weekly basis because I struggled with hearing me and my soul. She was my portal. 

She was the one who could tell me “No, Lana you don’t want that. You hate that, why are you doing that.” 

She nailed it every week. 

She didn’t ever let me cop out or hide, and she STILL makes me show up -every damn time. And I love her for that. 

She has taught me how to love me, honor me, listen to me and stand up for ME!  

Because of her, I have a sense of confidence that I have never had before. 

My first coach pulled me from my depression and I will be forever grateful. 

Then Jodie catapulted me into self-growth by helping me learn WHO I am and HOW I operate. Which eventually led to my ability to embrace or rebuild whatever I needed to. 

Although I don’t need her weekly, like I once did, she is always there. Waiting in the background, always willing to straighten my wheels, dust me off and send me back out into the world. 

Jodie feels like the Mama I never had. Someone who allows me to be me. Who ensures I LOVE me for me as well. 

Ok fine, she’s the mama I pay to be my mama, but let’s not split hairs here. 

She is powerfully, remarkable and has changed my life in many ways. 

As a fellow coach, there are some phrases that she has taught me that I love sooo much and have adopted into my own practice. 

Here are 5 Phrases that you will become familiar with if you work with Jodie. 

  1. Stand in your power
  2. Stay in your lane
  3. You are powerful enough to decide how this goes
  4. Decide who is on your bus
  5. Observe without plugging in 

In truth, there are a million Jodie-isms, but these are, by far, her most popular. 

Add to that her contagious ability to use the word brilliant in everyday sentences. 

Love her!! 

Now down to what everyone is wondering. Did I ever become her BFF?

Here’s the most incredible part about Jodie….I will never be her BFF! No one will ever be. 

Huh?

Because JODIE is Jodie’s BFF! 

Period. 

Brilliant! (Oh! See what I did there?)

She has her own back, she stands in her power and she doesn’t need validation from anyone. (Ok fine, she’s not super human. She loves love as we all do, but she doesn’t look to anyone to tell her she’s going to be ok or that she good enough)

Just another splendid example of Jodie. 

Through her example; she has inspired me to be my own BFF. She inspired me to love myself so fiercely that anyone else’s love is just icing on an already great cake. (She will love the cake analogy)

So yep, upon meeting Jodie I have been gifted a BFF, but it wasn’t who I expected. 

My BFF is me and I guess you could say “I didn’t even see her coming.” 

Jodie’s offer to you:

In order to truly appreciate Jodie, you must see her in action. So I am over the moon excited about what she is offering all of you. 

Her website says:

Jodie Rollins,is an internationally renowned, Canadian Psychic Medium and an expert in the Law of Attraction. Her unique, and honest approach to the world of spirit, and our responsibility to our own spirit is truly a powerful combination.

She is from Western Canada, and started with a local client base, and has grown internationally, with clients from all parts of the world. 

She is offering you two options:

Option #1 – The opportunity for a FREE 15 minute phone or Skype coaching consult. Please book by January 15, 2017

Option #2 – 10% off a coaching package OR other service of your choice. This offer expires January 31, 2017

To take advantage of these offers, view her coaching packages or for more information on her other services visit her website

To book your session or take advantage of her offer contact her here. Be sure to mention the code LANAROCKS in the subject line to get the special offer!

Top Ten Favorite Inspirational Women of 2016: #3 – Linell Grudnitzki

I’m excited to write this one….well ok I was excited to write them all. But this one is special because it’s been done a bit sneakily.

Our #3 Favorite Inspirational Woman is my talented friend Linell Grudnitzki.

I had plans to just repost Linell’s “The Camera Doesn’t Lie” post from a few weeks ago, because I found her inspirational in the way she ran her photography business.

And I still do.

But I changed my mind on just reposting her post for two reasons:

First, while on the phone with her last week I said, “I got your back, buddy!”

To which she replied good naturedly with a laugh, “Yah, I still haven’t figured out how I got that honor, but whatever … I’m gonna run with it.”

Next, she came forward with an offer to the readers that blew my mind. So I knew for sure a repost of a previous article was never going to work and was simply not enough to honor this girly. 

In that moment, I decided a seperate blog post needed to be written. I wanted to celebrate her inspiration by sharing the person she is.

So here we go, Linell! Buckle up, sugar:

I met Linell a few years ago, and the first time I met her I wasn’t sure if I should be intimidated by her or love the hell of out of her.

As the years have melted away and I have had the priviledge to be a part of her life, I have come to discover her energy was never intimidation energy.

It was STRENGTH! 100% raw, “take-me-or-leave-me” strength.

This woman is one of the strongest woman I know. Her ability to get knocked down and get right back, time and time again, is awe inspiring to say the least.

She’s doesn’t have a choice, but to show up everyday. But it’s the way she shows up that is most inspirational of all.

She is a single mom to two boys. She works several jobs to makes ends meet, still attends all the boys extra-curricular activities, meanwhile she does it ALL with her gorgeous smile still on her face.

I’ve asked her before, “Linell, HOW do you do it all.”

And in true Linell style she shrugs and says, “Meh, I just do.”

Ugh, dear lord, she’s so damn astonishing.

She is fantastically talented as a photographer, but she also has a unique ability to morph into any job or requirement to provide for her family.

She puts 100% into everything she does. And still makes time for herself the best she can.

She wears more hats than I have ever even considered owning, yet she does it with such allure and class that you can’t help but high five her as she runs it to the finish line.

She’s an inspiration to anyone who knows her.

To be honest, on the days I’m maxed, when I’m exhausted and not sure I can move another inch, I remind myself of Linell. She doesn’t get breaks. She doesn’t have a spouse’s hand for a tap out when she needs a breather.

And on those days, I breathe. And I am grateful for her and reminded once again of her tenacity.

2016 created a monumental moment for Linell. A moment that “someone” has been telling her for years, is within her grasp.

Linell has just announced that she is going to dive into her business InPhoto FULL-TIME.

And I’m standing up and cheering over here. Her photography abilities align fully to make her business a glowing success. I’m so profoundly excited for her and what 2017 is cooking up for her.

Anyone who walks into her studio, with her behind the camera, will be so remarkably blessed.

Linell, you are a rock star!! I wish you the very best in 2017. I hope you grant yourself the opportunity to breathe. To look around and marvel at all you have created; for yourself and your boys.

One day, when they are a parent themselves, I am confident they will label YOU their hero. Soon enough, they will understand all the sacrifices you made in order to give them the best life you could.

They will become as awe-struck with you as we all are and they will tell their kids about all their “grandma” did and how strong she is.

But until that day comes, I’m here, to tell you: get aligned with the definition of hero, my sweetheart. Because you, sincerely, are one!

Not all heroes wear capes, some stand behind a camera (and then stand at a stove or the sidelines of hockey games or wherever else you find yourself)

Much love, my girl!! May 2017 be your best year yet. (Mwah)

Linell’s offer to you:

Linell owns InPhoto. A Regina based photography company who provides her services for family, baby and sports teams.

You can visit her Facebook to learn more.

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Ok, wait let me be honest:  When Linell texted me her Offer To The Readers I literally called her to make sure it wasn’t a mistake or she wasn’t in some sort of medical emergency.

As it turned out, she was fine and knew exactly what she was offering.

Linell is offering EVERYONE reading this a FREE consultation AND photo shoot WITH one free photo of your choice. (Additional photos available for purchase)

SERIOUSLY??!! Now you know why I had to call her!!

I told you she was incredible.

So that means no sitting fee, no hidden costs. Just go hang out in her beautiful studio and receive a free photo of your choice!

Ugh, dear lord, I love this woman.

Book your sessions before December 31st. (Actual session can take place in the New Year, but it needs to be booked before December 31)

All you need to do is mention this blog post to get the deal!

Sounds easy enough to me!!

Top Ten Favorite Inspirational Women of 2016: #4 – Tina Bulai

*sigh* Tina Bina Bo-Bina!  I love her – she makes our Favorite Inspirational Women of 2016 in the #4 position.  She makes me smile just writing about her.

Tina and I have been friends for a couple years now.  We learned of each other from our many mutual friends.  

Whenever we talked about “woo woo witchy stuff” our mutual friends would encourage us, seperately, to meet each other. 

So we embraced the new millennium way and became friends on Facebook first. 

But soon that wasn’t enough for either of us, and we finally met in person.  

The first time I met her was the night I stood front and center in my old hometown to do my first live Mediumship show.  My nerves were at an all time high, and Tina took it upon herself to send me Reiki Rainbows all night.

It was a no-brainer for us to be friends after that.  Anyone who would help me energetically to succeed, well I had to know this lady!!

Since then we have become great friends.

As a girl who works in energy daily, I can be picky about who I work with to help me heal. Or who heals my family for that matter. 

I think it’s incredibly important to work with those who you are energetically align with. 

And nothing makes me happier than this lady’s energy. 

Three out of the five individuals of my family have gotten cozy (or in B’s case — fallen asleep) on Tina’s Reiki table. 

She has helped Don manage his vertigo and B maneuver his school energy struggles. 

And she has helped me clean out old crap and shift into NEW. 

She’s truly a gift to anyone who steps into her office. Tina will always provide insight and answers. 

Tina fully embodies what it means to “work from a space of no judgement.” She shows up with a unique ability to make you feel safe enough to let your guard down and heal with her by your side. 

She is genuine and real. She can’t even help it. She just is. But she also carries a TON of compassion for everyone. She truly feels people and cares about healing you in whatever capacity you need. 

Tina is only 5ft tall (maybe, not even?!), but don’t let her size fool you, she packs a TON of power into that little, pixie frame. 

She has been an Energy Worker long before it was cool to be an Energy Worker. She and her father created an incredible business and have stood in their power offering people Reiki and Iridilogy for years. 

Together they stood tall in what they wanted to create — long before energy and reiki were so commonly understood. 

I admire her for that. I admire her father for that. They paved the way for many of us to work in Energy. 

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Here’s a secret tip about Tina. She has this adorable little giggle. But if you pay attention, get real quiet and listen she has several giggles. 

And her giggles all have different meanings:

Her giggle has told me to “get my head out of my ass” more than once. 

Her giggle has said “He will be fine” when I grill her on what happened during B’s Reiki sessions. 

Her giggle has even said “I love you because your crazy.”

And I freakin’ LOVE her too!

Tina’s offer to you:

Tina owns and operates New Millenium Supplements located  about 5 minutes down Highway 54. (Towards Regina Beach)

From this facility she provides Reiki and Iridology services as well as provides their very OWN Supplement Line. 

Tina is offering you 20% off all her Reiki or Iridology Services.  Offer expires December 23. 

You can find visit Tina on her Facebook page – New Millennium Supplements. Or email her at iridology@sasktel.net and use LANA20 in the subject line. 

Reiki is a Japenese spiritual healing art. The word Reiki comes from the Japense word (Rei) which means “Universal Life” and (Ki) which means “Energy.”  It is a subtle and effective form of energy work using spiritually guided life force energy. 

Reiki is the life energy that flows through all living things. When the energy becomes weak or blocked it could lead to symptoms of physical or emotional embalances. 

Reiki is a technique commonly called palm healing or hands-on healing, the practitioner places above or lightly on the patient’s body to facilitate the patient’s process of healing. People often experience heat in the practitioners hands over specific areas on the body. 

A Reiki session can help ease tension and stress and can help support the body to facilitate an environment for healing on all levels – physical, mental and emotional. 

Iridology is the science and practice of analysis of the iris of the eye. The iris reveals inherited strengths, weaknesses, inflammations, pain centers, confessions, toxins, stress, injuries (acute to chronic), deficiencies, Cholesterol, plaque in the arteries, and numerous other things. The iris is unable to show the size of the arteries, and if anything has been surgically removed. 

Iridilogy is a simple, painless, economical means to looking into the body. A digital picture is taken of the Eye and enlarged onto a computer screen. The Iris is the analyzed, while you are present. Nutritional and Supplemental suggestions are given. 

To see changes of healing within the fibres of the Iris takes a minimum of 3 – 6 months. 

The pictures are then saved for future reference.  



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Top Ten Favorite Inspirational Women of 2016: #5 – Telanne Wilhelm

Welcome back to another week of Top Ten Favorite Inspirational Women of 2016. Last week I made three women cry. So yah, that was fun!! 

I hope you all are loving these as much as I am!

Telanne Wilhelm is out #5 Favorite Inspirational Woman. 

I’ve known Telanne for atleast 10 years as she is my very good friend, Janet’s, niece. 

We’ve spent Christmas together on more than one occasion. She comes from an incredible family who welcomes anyone who should knock, into their home with loving kindness and huge hugs. 

She has always made me smile because of how she moves through life. 

She’s a straight forward, no bullshit kinda gal who could be mistaken for being shy or quiet. That’s what I originally thought when I met her. 

But my assumption was incorrect. She keeps her truest self a hidden little gem of a secret reserved for only those who she chooses to share it with. 

It’s one of those secrets that everyone wants in on, but few are selected to have the privilege of being privy to. 

She is astonishingly kind, compassionate and caring. She is an incredible mama. She has two babes. But it’s her son Noah who has won my heart. 

Noah is the kindest and sweetest little boy who shares with smiles and genuine loves. Her babe is not this way by a miracle, but instead because of his mama as his model. He’s a sweetheart due to the love and kindness he sees from her each day. She is a tremendous mother. 

Telanne is a gift to anyone who gets the opportunity to move in her circle. 

Case in point:

I work differently. I have done a lot of business. I have worked stats and demographics and business plans and marketing and advertising routes all in the hopes to create my past business. 

But never have I had more success than when I started following my heart. 

Everything in my business is now created by feel. 

If I FEEL like marketing, I do. If I FEEL like going in another direction in my business, I do. I FEEL everything. Every decision. 

I don’t make it any secret who I am or what I do for a living.  And, in truth, I have had contractors or potential mentors who refused to work with me. 

So (still being honest here) whenever I call someone new to discuss the idea to work together I do brace myself for a no. Because it could happen (and has)

I called Telanne in November to discuss my Empowerment Bracelet idea. She already knew what I do for a living, but honestly I require my contractors to meet me halfway. 

What does that mean?

It means this…I had an idea of what I wanted the bracelets to be, but I needed someone who could use her expertise to FEEL the rest of the idea to completion. 

When I explained this premise to Telanne she met me right where I was. No judgement. No eye rolls. No argument. She just showed up to play, she was maybe even a bit fascinated by my FEELING process. 

In fact, she showed up so well that by the end, she was bringing spacer selections stating, “How does it feel, Lana?”

But perhaps my favorite moment in working with Telanne was when she discovered she actually works by feel all the time. She just didn’t realize it. 

Incredible! 

Telanne, thank you. Thank you for showing up and being willing to complete these bracelets for me. Thank you for taking all my phone calls (as I hate texting so much) and listening to me “feel” the beads and the spacers and everything else that we created. 

Yea, these bracelets have my name on them, but a good portion of them wouldn’t exist without you. Your ability to know what is on trend and what looks good paired together has been priceless to me. 

Thank you Telanne for everything you did to bring these bracelets alive with me.

Thank you for showing and being willing to think outside the box and work with a client who is different

I am so excited for what we have created together. And CANNOT wait to bring the other four bracelets alive with you. 

Telanne’s offer to the readers

Telanne owns a company called NKW Jewelry. You can find her on Facebook where she is surrounded by a mighty fan base. 

She also promotes her business at tradeshows around Regina and area. 

Or you can find her purchase her products at various salons and stores in Regina, Lumsden and further. 

Telanne has an AWESOME giveaway on her Facebook page — it’s your chance to win these beauties:

Silver & Aurora Borealis Set in silver. Lead free. Nickel free. 10mm in size.

Note: Due to the INCREDIBLE demand for her products, Telanne is currently closed, in order to guarantee order completion for Christmas delivery. She will reopen on January 2. 

So go over and take advantage of winning her giveaway….you know, to hold you over until the New Year!

The New Mental Health Stats Have Pissed Me Off…But It’s Not For The Reason You Think

I am fired up this morning…I woke to the news playing on my bedroom TV. (I know it’s a no-no to watch tv to fall asleep. Guilty as charged)

They were discussing Mental Health Stats. Women’s mental health numbers have increased since 2015 from 5% of women on antidepressant medication to 12%. 

That’s 7% MORE woman than last year are taking meds in this world to BE HAPPY!! 

As my feet hit the ground this morning, I was pissed and my heart was broken. 

NOT because the women are ON the medication. Nope!  No judgement here. I swallowed the pills myself for 10 years. 

At my peak, I was on the most anti-depressant medication I could be on without a psychiatric evaluation. I didn’t mean to get to that point, but meds are tricky. And you build an immunity and you have to keep upping the dose. It’s a vicious hurricane that is difficult to maneuver. 

This summer will mark three years being med free. 

So no…I was not pissed at the women ON the medication. I was pissed FOR the women on the medication. 

Why??  Because they are still believing everything society is teaching them about who they SHOULD be. How they are EXPECTED to show up. 

And when they miss the mark, society encourages them to DIG deeper. Try harder. 

And I’m so damn tired of it. And 12% of women are so damn tired, in general. 

That’s why they are on the meds. Because they can’t fit in the box, so they are shrinking themselves to fit. They missed the mark so they need meds in order to try harder. To dip deeper. 

And the shrinking and digging deeper is causing MORE depression and self deprivation and anger and sadness and any other emotion that comes with the belief that there is something wrong with you. 

Ladies, there is NOTHING wrong with you!  

Don’t shrink yourselves. 

Don’t push yourself harder. 

Don’t hold in your anger or your frustration. 

Don’t shrink your brightness to ensure people like you. 

Don’t take responsibility for how someone else reacts to how you show up in this world. 

Don’t believe what people say about how “you look” to others. 

Ladies, please:

Rest and honor your body. When you’re tired, rest. Don’t push harder or dig deeper. Rest. 

Love yourself for who you are. Love your loudness. Your boldness. Your opinions. They are not a bad thing. (Someone may have told you they were a bad trait — they were wrong)

If you’re angry, say it. 

If you’re sad, cry!

If someone hurts you, stand in your power. Stand up for yourself however you need to. 

Ladies, I have been where you are. The pills don’t help. 

Don’t get me wrong, they slow down the trauma and hurt enough that you can function. I get it. But they are not a long term healing method. 

They do not take away the pain, they numb it. 

If you go off the pills, the pain is still there. Just as raw and big as the day you started the pills. 

I know!  

I’ve been there. 

And it is so damn frustrating!

But just pills will not work. You need to do more to heal:

Understand energy and how it affects you, your mood, your life. 

Understand your programs and belief structures to start to shift your mind. 

Understand your triggers and why you get so angry or so hurt or so lost. 

Embrace YOU!!! 

Please know my sweetheart…

You are NOT flawed. You are NOT off your life path. You are NOT a screw up. You are NOT wasting your life. 

You were raised in a world of energy. A world that swirls with people’s feelings and emotions. 

A world filled with people who FEEL the energy and emotions of others. 

But most especially; a world that doesn’t teach those of us who feel energy, as openly as it should, HOW to deal with the energy. How to identify it or what to DO about it. 

And the world, most certainly does not teach you how to heal your pain!  And it breaks my heart!

You are beautiful. You are perfect. You are not alone. YOU deserve to be happy. 

Make yourself a priority in 2017. Love you! Be you! Honor you!

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Top Ten Favorite Inspirational Women of 2016: #6 – Christy Lawson

The gorgeous and incredibly talented Christy Lawson ends this weeks portion of the Top Ten Favorite Inspirational Women in the #6 position. 

Christy is a pistol. She’s the life of the party and can make me laugh so damn hard. She’s a HUGE energy who makes everyone around her smile  (Or laugh until your sides hurt) because her spark is contagious. 

Should you show up at a party and Christy is there, you are gonna be in for a ROCKIN fun time. She’s just that kind of energy. 

She’s straightforward and no bullshit, but she laces it with such compassion that you can’t help, but love her!
She also plays BIG! She doesn’t do anything half way. 

Christy STANDS UP for what she believes in. Her kids. Her family. Her friends. Her business. But most importantly, herself! 

She’s extremely strong in who she is. Her ability to move through life with such firm self assurance is truly commendable. 

She’s sassy and refreshingly authentic. 

I went to high school with Christy, but much like Ginger I never moved in her circle. So of course, when she moved away after high school, we lost touch. 

But four years ago, in true Christy fashion she blazed her way back into my world. I had just opened my business as a Psychic Medium and Christy came for a session. 

My reading room was nothing special. It consisted of a table and chairs, a book shelf and small “decorative table”. I use the word decorative loosely as truthfully everything in that room were items I pulled from other rooms in my house to make it work for now

After her session was complete, Christy leans back in the tattered chair and says, “Lana, you rock at your job, but this room sucks”. (There’s that straightforward, no bullshit personality trait I talked about earlier)

Christy had received her degree in Interior Design following high school. As luck would have it, she was now working nights and weekends as a Designer (while still holding down a full time government job.)

I asked for her help to recreate my space ..and after much  sources and paint selections and discussions for my input…she rocked my space. She decorated using the colours I wanted (yep, it’s 50 shades of purple and she hates purple. But she did it for me) and she used decorating items that created a space of healing and luxury. 

In truth, it’s still my favorite room in the house. I sit in there and hide away from my family sometimes. Clients or not. 

Christy’s talents became so sought after that, in 2015, she quit her government job and opened House Envy Interiors full time. 

She was nervous about leaving the constant wage and guaranteed pay day that comes with the regular 9-5 employment. 

So, she and her husband discussed budgets and game plans and then she took the leap. 

And she rocked the hell out of 2015. She was “living the dream”

And then, in 2016, things shifted. Not within her career, but instead in her marriage. 

When we get married, we create plans with our partner. We share our dreams and our goals. We discuss and compromise on our personal ethics and beliefs and morals. 

And together we forge forward with a life plan that accommodates both partners. 

Yet, sometimes one partner forgets the deals you made in the beginning. They start showing up differently than they vowed they would. 

They decide to change their lifestyle or habits or the way they move through life and there comes a time when you have to decide how this will affect you. 

Christy had to decide:

What will she stand by and watch?

What will she stand beside?

What will she stand up against?

But most importantly, what was she going to continue to build your life around? 

The decisions he was making were no longer aligned with what they had agreed upon years earlier. 

But most importantly, his decisions were no longer aligned with their, once United, vision of what family meant. 

I know she tried to help. She tried to entice change. But one can only sit in that space for so long before you have to take care of everyone else the decisions are affecting as well. 

And so 2016 became her moment when Christy had to seperate from her husband.  It was not an easy decision. It never is. 

Yet, Christy’s decision was more difficult than most. She had a business in the infant stages. The financial risks of a new business can be extremely high. 

Many times we as woman stay in a marriage because we don’t know how we can possibly support ourselves. So instead we become complacent and stay put. 

OR we would convince ourselves that the responsible thing to do would be to give up our dreams and “get a real job.”

NOT Christy! She kept her new business doors wide open, her head held high and went back to the drawing board. 

REcreating budgets and goals and new plans, but this time for only herself and her kids. All the while doing it with such grace and dignity and firmness. 

All of us who surrounded her couldn’t help but sit back and smile and cheer her on. 

Christy, 2016 was a bitch of a year for you. There’s no doubt about it. But the courage and tenacity you showed this year inspired all of us. 

You showed up this year. So damn big.  You are an inspiration to any woman who feels powerless in her life. 

Any woman who has awoken to a partner or a life that no longer aligns to what they envisioned. You are an inspiration to all of them. You have allowed them to see they are worth it. You taught them this by declaring to the world that YOU are worth it. 

But most importantly, you are inspiration to your children. You’ve taught them so many incredible lessons this year, by modelling strength and courage.

By standing up for YOU, you have allowed your children to never accept any less, for themselves, within their futures. 

I’m so immeasurably proud of you, Christy. You are doing remarkable things and I’m confident that your 2017 will blow the doors off anything you have created so far. 

Christy’s offer to you:

Christy owns House Envy Interiors where she specializes in creating spaces you love. Christy can revamp your current home AND assist you with a new residential home build. 

She also has working relationships with reputable contractors in order to bring whatever you envision for your space, to life. 

You can follow Christy and House Envy on Facebook, Instagram or Houzz 

Here’s some before and after pictures of a bedroom revamp she recently completed. 

Before
After
 

Christy is offering TWO – 8.5 x 11 prints to the first 10 people who like her Facebook Page. 

You can frame these motivational messages prints; such a creative way to put an touch of inspiration in any rooms. 

*Winners choose the prints of their choice. (Frame not included)

Motivation & Inspirational Message in action

Join us next week as our countdown of Top Ten Favorite Inspirational Women of 2016 continues. 


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5 Questions Every Psychic Medium Gets Asked REPEATEDLY

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When we meet someone new there is always a variety of questions that we ask one another.

Where are you from?
Do you have any kids?
Are you married?

But there is one question in this variety that will cause any new Psychic Medium’s heart to lurch as they let out a nervous laugh.

What do you do for a living?

As we stand in our power and state, “I am a Psychic Medium” we realize this is our point of no return. This is the moment that will define if the person standing beside us will ever move from introductions into friendship.

What we do will invoke two reactions. Both big.

Either they will exclaim “Wow” and then with a new found awe and excitement they will attempt to suck the life out of us.

OR

They are convinced that we have been spawned by the devil himself and will surely die from a firey ball brought forth from the burning depths of hell.

Never have I had someone respond casually to what I do – not once have I heard the reply, “Oh yah, hey did you see the Jays game last night!” Never ever.

My “Wow-ers” will then begin spewing questions in rapid fire succession. Truthfully, they are always the same so I thought I would share them with you:

1) Can you see ____________?
(Insert the name of whomever you lost here)

I understand. Grief is hard. And the idea that someone can connect with the person you loved so dearly creates a lot of feelings.

Please know…yes we can get ahold of them. In fact, we can connect with anyone you want.

Let’s do a quick exercise.

Think of your favorite colour.
As easily as you were able to visualize that red crayon, we are able to connect with your loved one.

(I just freaked out someone who visualized a red crayon — not intentional, I swear lol)

And yep, your loved one is there!
Yes, really! I can see them.
Every time!

2) Do you know what I’m thinking right now?

No. Well , I mean yeah, I could easily pick up on how you feel if I wanted to. But I don’t read people just to read them. And I don’t read outside of session.

Imagine an accountant. He doesn’t just go around solving random math problems as they pop up on his morning walk around the city.

In the same way, we don’t just work to work. We work with purpose. I work to help pivot your life. To help people heal and find happiness.

Oh and PS – you are feeling nervous and worried that I can read your mind right now! 😉

3). Can you just take a quick peek and help me with (insert your problem here)?

As Psychics we are constantly asked to take a quick peek and help with a variety of problems all while sipping wine at a party.

To use the Accountant example again. No one would ever dream of asking an accountant to take a quick peek at their books while at the same party.

Never do you hear “No matter how I have tried I just can’t get my payables to balance. Can you just take a quick peek, between your sips of wine, and tell me where I went wrong?”

Psychics don’t want to work either. They are there for the wine 🍷

4) Am I on the right track?
Yup! Always! There is no right or wrong track. You are absolutely where you are meant to be in this moment.

The real question is, “Are you happy with where you’re at?”

If the answer is No, then it’s time to make some changes.

5) Can you tell me my birthday?
(Or any other fact you already know the answer to)

Unless you have suddenly developed amnesia and have requested my assistance in piecing together your life memories, please save your hard earned cash and not ask me to recite facts that you already know the answer to.

Psychic Mediums are real.
I promise.

So rather than spending your precious 60 minute session having your Psychic Medium recite facts and answer questions that you already know the answer, Instead trust the process and embrace the space.

By doing so, you will quickly know their accuracy as they will have the ability to recite facts about people
and things that you KNOW they didn’t know.

And…
Since I shared my Wowers questions, it’s only fair that I share the question I have been asked by those who dislike what I do…

“The Bible states that a person could only connect to spirit if you are either possessed by devil or are a prophet. So which one are you?”

To which I reply “Hmmmm, Somedays it’s just sooo hard to tell!” And then I walk away and let them wonder what the hell that is supposed to mean!

What?? A girl’s gotta have a little fun!

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