I am fired up this morning…I woke to the news playing on my bedroom TV. (I know it’s a no-no to watch tv to fall asleep. Guilty as charged)
They were discussing Mental Health Stats. Women’s mental health numbers have increased since 2015 from 5% of women on antidepressant medication to 12%.
That’s 7% MORE woman than last year are taking meds in this world to BE HAPPY!!
As my feet hit the ground this morning, I was pissed and my heart was broken.
NOT because the women are ON the medication. Nope! No judgement here. I swallowed the pills myself for 10 years.
At my peak, I was on the most anti-depressant medication I could be on without a psychiatric evaluation. I didn’t mean to get to that point, but meds are tricky. And you build an immunity and you have to keep upping the dose. It’s a vicious hurricane that is difficult to maneuver.
This summer will mark three years being med free.
So no…I was not pissed at the women ON the medication. I was pissed FOR the women on the medication.
Why?? Because they are still believing everything society is teaching them about who they SHOULD be. How they are EXPECTED to show up.
And when they miss the mark, society encourages them to DIG deeper. Try harder.
And I’m so damn tired of it. And 12% of women are so damn tired, in general.
That’s why they are on the meds. Because they can’t fit in the box, so they are shrinking themselves to fit. They missed the mark so they need meds in order to try harder. To dip deeper.
And the shrinking and digging deeper is causing MORE depression and self deprivation and anger and sadness and any other emotion that comes with the belief that there is something wrong with you.
Ladies, there is NOTHING wrong with you!
Don’t shrink yourselves.
Don’t push yourself harder.
Don’t hold in your anger or your frustration.
Don’t shrink your brightness to ensure people like you.
Don’t take responsibility for how someone else reacts to how you show up in this world.
Don’t believe what people say about how “you look” to others.
Rest and honor your body. When you’re tired, rest. Don’t push harder or dig deeper. Rest.
Love yourself for who you are. Love your loudness. Your boldness. Your opinions. They are not a bad thing. (Someone may have told you they were a bad trait — they were wrong)
If you’re angry, say it.
If you’re sad, cry!
If someone hurts you, stand in your power. Stand up for yourself however you need to.
Ladies, I have been where you are. The pills don’t help.
Don’t get me wrong, they slow down the trauma and hurt enough that you can function. I get it. But they are not a long term healing method.
They do not take away the pain, they numb it.
If you go off the pills, the pain is still there. Just as raw and big as the day you started the pills.
I’ve been there.
And it is so damn frustrating!
But just pills will not work. You need to do more to heal:
Understand energy and how it affects you, your mood, your life.
Understand your programs and belief structures to start to shift your mind.
Understand your triggers and why you get so angry or so hurt or so lost.
Please know my sweetheart…
You are NOT flawed. You are NOT off your life path. You are NOT a screw up. You are NOT wasting your life.
You were raised in a world of energy. A world that swirls with people’s feelings and emotions.
A world filled with people who FEEL the energy and emotions of others.
But most especially; a world that doesn’t teach those of us who feel energy, as openly as it should, HOW to deal with the energy. How to identify it or what to DO about it.
And the world, most certainly does not teach you how to heal your pain! And it breaks my heart!
You are beautiful. You are perfect. You are not alone. YOU deserve to be happy.
Make yourself a priority in 2017. Love you! Be you! Honor you!
The gorgeous and incredibly talented Christy Lawson ends this weeks portion of the Top Ten Favorite Inspirational Women in the #6 position.
Christy is a pistol. She’s the life of the party and can make me laugh so damn hard. She’s a HUGE energy who makes everyone around her smile (Or laugh until your sides hurt) because her spark is contagious.
Should you show up at a party and Christy is there, you are gonna be in for a ROCKIN fun time. She’s just that kind of energy.
She’s straightforward and no bullshit, but she laces it with such compassion that you can’t help, but love her!
She also plays BIG! She doesn’t do anything half way.
Christy STANDS UP for what she believes in. Her kids. Her family. Her friends. Her business. But most importantly, herself!
She’s extremely strong in who she is. Her ability to move through life with such firm self assurance is truly commendable.
She’s sassy and refreshingly authentic.
I went to high school with Christy, but much like Ginger I never moved in her circle. So of course, when she moved away after high school, we lost touch.
But four years ago, in true Christy fashion she blazed her way back into my world. I had just opened my business as a Psychic Medium and Christy came for a session.
My reading room was nothing special. It consisted of a table and chairs, a book shelf and small “decorative table”. I use the word decorative loosely as truthfully everything in that room were items I pulled from other rooms in my house to make it work for now.
After her session was complete, Christy leans back in the tattered chair and says, “Lana, you rock at your job, but this room sucks”. (There’s that straightforward, no bullshit personality trait I talked about earlier)
Christy had received her degree in Interior Design following high school. As luck would have it, she was now working nights and weekends as a Designer (while still holding down a full time government job.)
I asked for her help to recreate my space ..and after much sources and paint selections and discussions for my input…she rocked my space. She decorated using the colours I wanted (yep, it’s 50 shades of purple and she hates purple. But she did it for me) and she used decorating items that created a space of healing and luxury.
In truth, it’s still my favorite room in the house. I sit in there and hide away from my family sometimes. Clients or not.
Christy’s talents became so sought after that, in 2015, she quit her government job and opened House Envy Interiors full time.
She was nervous about leaving the constant wage and guaranteed pay day that comes with the regular 9-5 employment.
So, she and her husband discussed budgets and game plans and then she took the leap.
And she rocked the hell out of 2015. She was “living the dream”
And then, in 2016, things shifted. Not within her career, but instead in her marriage.
When we get married, we create plans with our partner. We share our dreams and our goals. We discuss and compromise on our personal ethics and beliefs and morals.
And together we forge forward with a life plan that accommodates both partners.
Yet, sometimes one partner forgets the deals you made in the beginning. They start showing up differently than they vowed they would.
They decide to change their lifestyle or habits or the way they move through life and there comes a time when you have to decide how this will affect you.
Christy had to decide:
What will she stand by and watch?
What will she stand beside?
What will she stand up against?
But most importantly, what was she going to continue to build your life around?
The decisions he was making were no longer aligned with what they had agreed upon years earlier.
But most importantly, his decisions were no longer aligned with their, once United, vision of what family meant.
I know she tried to help. She tried to entice change. But one can only sit in that space for so long before you have to take care of everyone else the decisions are affecting as well.
And so 2016 became her moment when Christy had to seperate from her husband. It was not an easy decision. It never is.
Yet, Christy’s decision was more difficult than most. She had a business in the infant stages. The financial risks of a new business can be extremely high.
Many times we as woman stay in a marriage because we don’t know how we can possibly support ourselves. So instead we become complacent and stay put.
OR we would convince ourselves that the responsible thing to do would be to give up our dreams and “get a real job.”
NOT Christy! She kept her new business doors wide open, her head held high and went back to the drawing board.
REcreating budgets and goals and new plans, but this time for only herself and her kids. All the while doing it with such grace and dignity and firmness.
All of us who surrounded her couldn’t help but sit back and smile and cheer her on.
Christy, 2016 was a bitch of a year for you. There’s no doubt about it. But the courage and tenacity you showed this year inspired all of us.
You showed up this year. So damn big. You are an inspiration to any woman who feels powerless in her life.
Any woman who has awoken to a partner or a life that no longer aligns to what they envisioned. You are an inspiration to all of them. You have allowed them to see they are worth it. You taught them this by declaring to the world that YOU are worth it.
But most importantly, you are inspiration to your children. You’ve taught them so many incredible lessons this year, by modelling strength and courage.
By standing up for YOU, you have allowed your children to never accept any less, for themselves, within their futures.
I’m so immeasurably proud of you, Christy. You are doing remarkable things and I’m confident that your 2017 will blow the doors off anything you have created so far.
Christy’s offer to you:
Christy owns House Envy Interiors where she specializes in creating spaces you love. Christy can revamp your current home AND assist you with a new residential home build.
She also has working relationships with reputable contractors in order to bring whatever you envision for your space, to life.
As I write these I’m realizing this is a bit larger of a task than I originally thought it would be. Not because of the work involved, as technically its only two more posts than I usually create per week. It’s a bigger task ENERGETICALLY.
In regards to the posts, a good friend said to me, “Buddy, this is something people only say about someone at their funeral.” And I guess I never thought of it, but it’s true! Perhaps that’s why these are so darn exciting to create.
Our #7 Favorite Inspirational Women of 2016 is my new, but dear, friend Jacquie Carter. Jacquie has been present in my life for about 5 years (give or take) as our husbands were business partners. As a result of this connection, we moved within the same circle frequently. We chatted at Christmas parties or summer barbeques and I always enjoyed bumping into her, yet we still remained merely acquaintances.
Last year as my boys struggled with school and anxiety and their “Days Absent” totals started to climb, the Universe cued Jacquie. Jacquie represents a company called Vibe H2O which takes the healing properties of gemstones, combined with homeopathic principles and a ‘special recipe’ to create a Chakra line, Lifestyles line, and a Protection spray that entirely supports all areas of the body (emotional, physical, spiritual and mental)
Now, I will be honest, I didn’t know exactly what that meant…but the boys were at a point where we really willing to try ANYTHING. The execution of the sprays was easy enough, we literally were required to spray the boys each morning. I sprayed them and their clothes, their backpacks, shoes, the whole nine…everything they owned.
And I was AMAZED by the difference in my boys. B became present. That’s really the only word I can use to describe what happened. He started to own his feelings and his emotions and started sharing with us what was going on with him. We could have conversations with him on solutions to his problems and he would listen or share. It was seriously a 180 with him in a few short weeks.
C was a little tougher nut to crack. But the difference in his anxiety after using the sprays was absolutely apparent.
Before the sprays he was literally melting down to the point where the only solution was to give him the day off school because once he was spiraling it was full out and we could barely pull him back.
With the sprays, although the anxiety still flared up, he was more (once again I use this word) present. We could maneuver the outbursts or anxiety and have discussions with him. They made his ability to try the tools to self calm attainable to him.
In truth, there was still days where the sprays couldn’t touch him, but I also think that was C’s ability to sit in the anxiety with such strength and defiance. He’s a strong little monkey when he sets his mind to something. And on the days he WANTED to stay home, no amount of spray was going to change his mind. However, on the days when he needed assistance. When he needed something to have his back and give him a little push and fill his energy body with something more than he was capable of creating in that moment, the sprays did that for him.
B used the Love spray. And C used the Protection Spray. We also own the Insight and truthfully, I let the boys choose their spray each morning. Each morning I allowed to feel which one their body needed as they needed it. And they had incredible results.
Our family is incredibly grateful to Jacquie for showing up at a time in our world when we needed something, ANYTHING.
As a result of her assistance with the boys and their struggles, Jacquie started to sneak her way in my heart. I love the way she shows up in this world and admire her for many reasons, but I wanted to share the major reason with all of you.
Jacquie lives her life of honoring herself and allows you to do the same. So when she presented the sprays to us from a space of, “If this feels good to you, I represent a company called Vibe H2O…” I knew she was meant to be in our world.
I live each day by feeling how each decision feels in my heart. I encourage others to do the same, to make decisions from a heart space and then forward from that place.
This is where Jacquie works from too. I never feel more empowered than when I talk to Jacquie because if I say “No thank you” to something, she appreciates the heart space that decision has come from.
She is also refreshingly real! Life isn’t perfect. Sometimes in life, we can’t always make our decisions from a heart space. Sometimes some of our most difficult life decisions are made by someone else.
2016 was a hell of a year for Jacquie. Her heart was broken when her husband made the decision to file for divorce. Jacquie was left with the task of rebuilding what was shattered as a result.
The shock of it all shook her. As it would anyone. It dropped her to her knees and took her to space she didn’t know existed. But then something amazing happened.
In the darkest recesses of her existence she lifted her tear filled eyes and started to look around. She started examining her life and her part in the demise of the marriage and what it all meant. She started to re-evaluate past programs and belief structures. She examined herself. She examined her marital relationship; what she thought it was, what it actually was, and what she was going to do about it moving forward.
And slowly but surely, she started to create a new personal awareness.
In the moment of such extreme pain, we all have two choices:
Option A: We can unpack and live there. We can let the hurt define any future relationship. We can build walls and shut down and become smaller all in attempt to “stay safe.” All in an attempt to never feel that level of hurt again.
Option B: We can pull ourselves forward. Even if it’s little by little. We can get honest with ourselves. We can decide how we want to recreate ourselves and our future relationships. No future blame, just life lessons that we acknowledge and more forward from.
My girl Jacquie rocked the shit out of Option B. She showed up! Even on the days when she wanted to crawl under her blankets and snuggle her puppy and hide from the world, she SHOWED UP!
She cried her tears, she looked at her life, she recreated it. She never once hid from any of it. Even when she was scared. Even when her heart was so broken and she couldn’t get a clear read on anything – she just kept going. One foot in front of the other. Baby steps. Tears and baby steps. She did it.
I am so damn proud of this woman. She completely 100% deserves to sit on this list. I think we all have to make hard decisions in our life. But when it is a decision that is made for us, the pain seems to hit with more force than we could ever imagine.
She never made a secret of her pain or her tears or her confusion or any of it. Until such a time that her pain could move forward, she honored it and allowed it to be a part of her existence. She just stood there, with it all. Not for attention. But merely because she didn’t have a choice, but to get cozy with her pain. To get comfortable with it.
Jacquie, you are a rock star! You should be so incredibly proud of who you are and how you show up in this world. Your truest self has created a space for other women to show up, without apologies or excuses, just the truest versions of themselves. You are changing lives, just by honoring your pain. I’m incredibly honored and proud to call you a friend.
Jacquie’s Offer to my readers:
I have a passion for guiding and supporting others. So when I came across Vibe H2O and it’s product line I knew it was an absolute fit for what I believe in.
In addition, bling up and improve the taste of water (after 8 minutes) while getting the scientifically proven, healing benefits of Gemstones with the VitaJewel line, also by Vibe H2O.
Jacquie is the Regina and Area distributor for Vibe H2O and carries the majority of products in stock right here in the city. Her online store is opening soon.
In addition to Vibe H2O, Jacquie is a Body & Energy Worker, with over 20 years experience, who assists you using such modalities as Access Energetic Facelifts, Body Work, Heart Centered Gatherings to heal and create your life.
Jacquie is offering two options:
#1. Completely relax the entire body while rejuvenating the face and appearance of aging with an Energetic Facelift. Sessions are 60 minutes.
Save $20, if purchased in the month of December.
#2. Access Bars – There is 32 points on your head, when gently touched the opportunity to release any limiting beliefs, patterns or emotions you have held about anything in your life can be released, thus creating more space to create the life you truly want.
Save $20, if purchased in the month of December
To contact Jacquie or book a session and take advantage of this special pricing, visit her at www.jacquiecarter.ca
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Ginger Braaten sits at my 8th position for Favorite Inspiration Women of 2016. I have to giggle about Gingers reaction to being on this list. I called Ginger to ask her if she would be interested in being showcased and I was greeted with her complete shock as she excitedly said, “I would be honored!” I almost felt as though I should remind her, I am NOT Oprah lol
I have known Ginger since high school, but we actually moved in different circles back then, so although I knew of her, I didn’t know her. We had the opportunity to reconnect over the past few years and even though we aren’t tight friends I always appreciate when our paths cross.
Ginger has an ability to make everyone smile and feel at home just by being herself. She is physically a blonde bombshell sweetheart who rocks ripped jeans like nobody I know. But its her soul that keeps me craving our run-ins.
She has a laugh that truly explodes from her spirit and makes you feel her excitement or joy. She has a smile with these adorable, sparkly eyes that makes you want to hang out and become a part of her inner circle.
But still that is not her best attribute…
Ginger owns a company called Best Food Forward, nicknamed BFF. (Fitting; considering we all want to be her BFF!) A company that takes food prep and it’s industry to a new level.
When asked why she opened BFF, this is what Ginger had to say:
I was at a crossroads and wasn’t sure what I was going to do for a “job”. So instead of getting another “job”, my best friend encouraged me to start planning meals and cooking for people.
I started testing the idea with friend and family in December of 2014. By March of 2015, I was full.
In May 2016, Ginger took a major leap of faith and expanded her vision; pivoting Best Food Forward from a home service to a storefront business. She still cooks for her very first client in their home due to severe nut and egg allergies. In addition to cooking weekly meals for her clients with an online menu that changes weekly which includes breads, muffins, full family sized suppers and lunches and more.
In addition, BFF provides all types of catering. As well as rents her kitchen to other small food producers; she currently shares her space with four fellow producers.
She pulls it all together in her commercial kitchen and pick up depot located at 104-815-7th Avenue in Regina.
It’s a really awesome little food community and I couldn’t be happier with my “job”.
We offer fresh, healthy meals for pick up daily or for home delivery twice a week. You can choose an entire week’s worth of meals with an easy to follow plan or you can just order one or two meals. It’s up to you!
Imagine if your grocery shopping was done, all your meals were planned and prepared for you each and every week! Imagine no more, Best Food Forward is here.
Best Food Forward believes that nourishing our bodies is the first step in achieving our best in everything we do. We believe in fresh ingredients and menus that change often is important. We believe in offering an option that truly saves our customers time, a lot of time, on average 8 – 10 hours a week! What would you do with all that extra time?
Done…like Dinner! Best Food Forward!
So aside from all the reason I listed above, I treasure Ginger because she is delivers healthy food.
Ok, it’s more than that; you’re right – although one has to appreciate the convenience she has created.
I treasure her because she is LIVING her passion. She takes delight in cooking and has figured out how to create her world to honored her allegiance to healthy home cooked meals.
And yep, owning a business is hard! Some days I’m sure she has cried for more reasons than because of the onions she’s mincing, yet she still shows up.
She doesn’t show up because she made a commitment or has a building lease. No ma’am! She shows up because deep in her soul, way down in the recesses of her heart, she remembers that she loves food. She remembers she delights in the ability to provide meals to busy family. She loves the business model that she has created. And so regardless of what each day brings, she knows that she is exactly where she wants to be.
So, my dear sweet Ginger, YOU are #8 for that reason right there. For living your dream. Because by living your dream, you are creating space for others to do the same. You are creating a beautiful, ripple effect that affects everyone around you, whether you are consciously aware of it or not.
Every time I see you drift by on my Facebook newsfeed I feel you and I high five you. Thank you for living your passion and staying true to your soul. You inspire me and you totally rock at being you!
Gingers offer to you, the readers:
Ginger truly believes that BFF allows her clients to be their best. She estimates that her service saves her clients 8 – 10 hours each week. With that time, her clients can truly be on their game!
Ginger is offering each you 15% off your very first order with Best Food Forward!!
Oh yeah, baby!! How great is that??! Our girl Ginger just saved you the trouble of figuring out supper.
Ohgmiosh, I am loving writing these posts so much! I seriously have butterflies as I bring all the beautiful women together and share…
Our #9 Favorite Inspirational Woman of 2016 is my incredible friend, Robin Somji. I have known Robin for more than 10 years and I have always been mind blown with how she shows up in the world. She is the epitome of what it means to Stand In Your Power.
The first time I met Robin was a Wedding Expo. We each were vendors, she selling life insurance and I sharing my Scrapbooking Store wares. We bonded over my paper selection because as it turned out, she also had a side business creating wedding invitations.
Our mutual love of LeapFrog Green Bazzill Paper created a friendship that was (and still continues to be) unique.
Robin showed up in a time in my life when my depression was at its highest. I was plagued with new mom guilt, unworthiness and a general exhaustion on who I was, but Robin ALWAYS saw the good in me. She believed in me, she listened to me and she appreciated me. And the way she showed up in my world, made me begin to believe that maybe there was something beautiful inside me after all.
I always refer to Robin as the “Gatherer of People.” She is often the Emcee, the party planner, and the cheerleader for many people. But most importantly, she has an uncanny ability to meet people exactly where they are at. She doesn’t demand or expect anything from anyone and always bring 150% pure love into every situation; be it her career, her parties or her relationships.
She loves herself, truly loves herself. Not in a boastful or arrogant space, but in a true genuine self assurance that makes you want to have it for yourself too. In fact, in honesty it made me demand it from myself. It made me decide that I was worthy of more without her ever speaking a word.
This is the beauty that is Robin, she doesn’t need to speak a word, she stands so strongly that just her presence in your world will help you believe you could create a better version of your life. AND that you deserve it too!
Our lives have changed drastically over the 10 years. I have more kids than when we first met and clearly have taken a major career change. Robin now lives in Calgary with her ADORABLE (and I seriously mean adorable) twins and step kids and her husband. But no matter the miles between us or how time has marched forward, she will always be in my heart. She reshaped my world, my self worth and my views on myself, all by existing.
Oh yah, and also my favorite thing about Robin…she has the midas touch when it comes to business. Whatever she gets behind, she rocks the shit out of it. Seriously, any industry, any path and anywhere she goes, she is a mover and shaker.
Robin’s Offer to you:
Because of who she is, her offer is something that makes me want to stand up and cheer for anyone who aligns with it.
Robin represents a company called Rodan & Fields:
Rodan and Fields is a life changing skincare. Founded by the Stanford trained dermatologists that created Proactiv, Drs, Katie Rodan and Kathy Fields, have developed a company that will empower all. The doctors are genuine women that think outside the box. They have created regimens that focus on the major skin concerns: sensitivities, acne, sun damage and aging. Their results driven products have a 60 day money back guarantee – they believe in them that much! They want you to love your skincare and your skin! And they also want to live the life you want.
-Robin Somji, Level V Executive Consultant
She is moving her way up quickly within the company and people are starting to take notice of who she is and what she is creating.
And although, I would agree that much of her success is attributed to her savvy business mind, I think more accurately its because of who she is. The way she showed up for me all those years ago, although it is unique within the world as we know, it is not unique for Robin. THIS is how she shows up for everyone who has the privilege to form a relationship with her.
Robin is offering YOU the opportunity to align with her and Rodan & Fields. If you are considering a new avenue and want to make more money in 2017, make new friendships or create a business of your own, consider joining Robin’s team and become a Rodan & Fields representative.
When you start a business (within any industry) you want a leader who you can trust, who has your interests in mind, who believes in you, and cares about your success. And I truly believe with all my heart that Robin will do all of this for you – AND MORE!
In fact, I believe in the opportunity to work with Robin so strongly, that when I went to her business showcase a few months ago, I literally had to SIT ON MY HANDS, so I didn’t buy the business kit she was offering. Not only because of the products, but because I know that with Robin as a team leader, plus YOUR personal drive and hard work, anyone who aligns with her will be on the fast track to success.
You can start your own business for as little as $52 with your very own website (no home parties and no inventories). OR you can take advantage of $75 off the Big Biz Kit.
Visit her website to try the products. Become a preferred customer and receive the Mineral Peptides at 1/2 Price as an Instant Thanks!
(Don’t let the fact that she lives in Calgary be a deterrent, she makes frequent stops in Regina to support her team and her existing customer base)
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I am a social butterfly by nature. At the beginning of any social event my husband can always be heard telling our kids, “There she goes kids, watch Mommy flutter.” I love meeting new people and truly do find myself fluttering around from table to table catching up with anyone and everyone. It’s the kind of stuff that fills my soul.
Two years ago, I performed a Live Psychic Group Reading in the booming metropolis of Lumsden, SK. The small community complex was packed and I had a wonderful night with tons of laughs and healing and while that does fire me up and excite me, my favorite is still always meeting the people who attend the events.
(And I mean the ACTUAL physical 3D people who attend, not just Spirit.)
The Lumsden Show is where I met Bailey Fleck. From the moment I met her, I was literally in awe of her. She has the brightest and kindest eyes I have ever encountered which mirror her gorgeous soul.
Here’s a Lana confession so brace yourself: As much as I love fluttering and meeting people in real life, I find social media truly exhausting at times. I find people show up in a way that portrays them in “the best light” even if it means they have fluffed the truth a bit. Genuine moments are few and far between when it comes to social media.
Bailey is my bright light on my Social Media Friends List. Her love for her life radiates through and anytime she pops up on my newsfeed, I find myself smiling at her mere presence in my world. Honestly, although I don’t know Bailey as well as some of the other ladies I will be showcasing this week, I wouldn’t trade her for anything.
Any one who has a chance to hang out with this lovely soul, will quickly feel as blessed to know her, as I do. She moves through life with such integrity and honesty and she is stunningly refreshing.
This week as I scrolled my Facebook feed Bailey struck again with this beauty of a video she posted. Watch right to the end….
Did you see her eyes smile? Ahhh, isn’t she adorable??!! I gotta say: I borderlined on creepy when this video slid across my newsfeed because I watched it over and over and over again just to see her eyes smile. Adorable!
After I was done with the eye smiles, I HAD to know what lipstick she is selling in this video. Because I don’t know about you, but within 20 minutes of a lipstick application I look like a …well, lets just say it’s not pretty as my make up application techniques can be questionable at best, let’s just leave it at that….so a SMUDGE FREE LIPSTICK is exactly what I need in my world.
Sign. Me. Up!
If you want to get some of this fabulousness too you can visit Bailey’s Facebook Group – Let’s Get Lippy with Bailey & Dee (Bailey is in biz with her equally adorable mom, Dee! Seriously, I’m beginning to think the bright and bubbly persona is DNA specific!)
While you’re there enter to WIN their giveaway which was launched TODAY in celebration of THIS blog post. You have a chance to win the LipSense Starter Kit (which includes the gloss, color and remover)for FREE. That’s a $70 value! How fun is that?!
Bailey Fleck, thank you for being a brilliant beacon in this world. For showing up and being the truest version of you. This beautiful young woman is an example of the ripple effect I love to talk about. Just by BEING, just by showing up and smiling, Bailey makes me smile.
Much love to you, my girl! Thanks for being part of my world.
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As each year comes to close, I find myself, once again, sitting within reflection. I always take the month of December to think of what I have accomplished, where I missed the mark, and what I want next year to look like.
One of my favorite quotes of 2016 is “You are a product of the people you surround yourself with.”
Due to this quote, I also find myself reflecting on the relationships and the people I am blessed to be surrounded by.
This year I I thought it would be fun to share my reflections with you – I have dubbed it my “Top Ten Favorite Women of 2016.”
As woman we need to celebrate each other more; celebrate our uniqueness and our life journey regardless of how they differ from one another’s.
Each woman I will showcase over the next ten days is unique in who they are or how they move through life, yet each is an incredible part of the puzzle that makes up me. Each individual has touched my life and made my 2016 remarkable, just by showing up, by being authentic, and by living their passion. In addition, their products or business services have made me (and my family) happy, made us smile or given us strength in some way.
So yah, these ladies are incredible! I mean, I already knew that, but then this happened…. I discussed with each woman my vision for the Top Ten
They each OFFERED to provide a discount, an opportunity or a gift, for MY readers. Seriously?? So, not only are they all incredible; they are also very generous!
Watch for the “Top Ten Favorite Women of 2016” daily starting December 5 thru December 14. And get ready to jump on the opportunity each of my “Top Ten Favorite Women of 2016” are offering YOU!
I am confident these ladies will quickly become your favorites too!
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December 1st marks the beginning of the holiday season.
As a kid this was my favorite time of the year.
Frilly, sparkly Christmas dresses that arched elegantly when I spun around.
Shiny black, patent leather shoes that pinched my feet.
80’s curled hairstyles held together with Paul Mitchell hairspray,
Holiday treats stolen from my Grandma’s table throughout the entire night while we waited to open presents.
And of course, SANTA!!
The biggest stress I faced during the holiday season was gauging my moms mood as she held a curling iron in my fine, sometimes stringy, hair while she sighed heavily as she angrily reminded me, “Sit still. I’m having a hard time breathing life into this mop of yours.”
Even her back handed comment couldn’t burst the bubble I floated in during the holiday season. It truly was the most wonderful time of the year.
But as an adult….
There’s tree trimming, present purchases, party prep and family – lots and lots of family. And let’s not even mention the god forsaken Elf on The Shelf.
Yep! The holiday season means work and fancy schedule juggling.
All of this equates to MAJOR adult stresses.
My Holiday Season bubble popped LOUDLY, about 10 years ago. It’s just too much for me.
And, if I can be honest, I have found myself daydreaming about winter vacations to Phoenix just so I can skip the entire holiday season.
Surely I’m not alone with my Holiday Season Dread. So I have created you a list of ways to love yourself this holiday season.
1) Scale Back
At the peak of our Christmas Clusterf**k we were literally attending Christmas dinners for the entire month of December.
I kid you not, our first Christmas Dinner of the season was the first weekend of December with a gift exchange. And our last one was usually December 27! During the peak, we were consuming SEVEN holiday dinners.
It meant Christmas shopping was completed by November 30. It was crazy AND an absolute recipe for burnout. By the time the last piece of curly ribbon hit the recycle bin that year I nearly cheered with relief.
No more! We are now very stingy with our Christmas dinners. We do not attend Christmases for a month straight. It was not sustainable and, once again in honesty, not enjoyable for anyone.
2) Don’t attend every party you’re invited to
It seems like everyone we know has a holiday party. We could be kept very busy socially, if we RSVP’d yes to everyone.
But we have decided that’s not the way we want to spend our holidays. We are also choosy with these. It’s not personal, it’s just self preservation.
3) Don’t bake if you don’t want to
I’m not a baker. Or a cook really. I do it to keep my family alive, but I’m not going to win a “Canadian Cook Off” anytime soon.
Sometimes I will make brownies, but that’s because I’m picky about my brownies. Using my recipe will guarantee I will like them when they are done, unlike some of the results I have had from grocery store brownies. Blech!
The holidays are the most common time for Potlucks. You get asked to bring something: A dessert. A salad. A platter etc.
If you hate baking etc. BUY IT!! It’s more common than you think. Don’t put unneeded stress on yourself. Take shortcuts wherever you can.
3) Create Boundaries
There will be people who disrespect you. And it’s your job to decide how they will affect you. (Not only during the holidays, but all year long too)
Decide what you want to do about the way you’re being treated. There are times when standing in your power is necessary and times when this will create unnecessary drama and it’s best to walk away.
Decide and implement your boundaries. And don’t let anyone change your mind.
4) Don’t compare yourself to others
We all have the one person during the holidays who seems to own the best clothes or have the greatest hairstyles. Or is just plain adorable. She graces the doorsteps of any party and people swoon — wishing they could have her closet or her hair or her personality, even for just one day.
And quickly, you feel like you have ordered your clothes from the “Hillbilly Hoedown Holiday Edition Magazine”
So while you dress for your holiday party remember: You are perfect exactly as you are. Wear what makes you comfortable. Style your hair in a way that makes you happy. And most importantly, be YOU!
Going to an event in clothes or hairstyles you are uncomfortable wearing (or faking your way through the evening) will exhaust you faster than running a marathon in a snowsuit during a Sasky blizzard.
5) Observe without plugging in (This one is for all my empath friends)
As empaths we have the ability to FEEL everything. We know Susie had a fight with their husband on the way to the party. We know George hates his job. We know Grace is seriously over the top in love with her new BF!
AND we know exactly who, at the party, hates being at the party.
So what do you do when the everyone’s energy is so easily available to you and quickly you begin swirling in the emotion of it all?
Observe without plugging in.
What does that mean?
Just because you can see it doesn’t mean you need to form an opinion or create a solution in your head. Just observe it. Snuggle up with some wine and watch the show.
Don’t get invested in the outcome. Quite honestly, Susie’s fight with her husband is probably causing you more anxiety than it is to Susie. You may have spent more time analyzing Susie’s feelings than, even, Susie herself has. And there is no point wasting your time and energy on something that is none of your business.
Eventually you won’t even need to observe anymore. You will be able remain unplugged completely. But that can take time.
The Holiday Season can be fun again. Somehow we’ve allowed ourselves to get tumbled up in expectations of others which creates exhaustion. Allow yourself to create your holidays in a way that makes you happy. Find the balance.
Bonus Tip: You do not have to explain your balance to anyone. Just find the balance that makes you happy.
There are many spiritual phrases that float around Social Media. And often these phrases are misunderstood.
One that has become quite popular, all while creating much confusion, and triggering feelings of unworthiness is this one:
The less you respond to negative people, the more peaceful your life will become.
It eludes to the belief that with spirituality or a higher awareness comes peace. That suddenly as an Intuitive or Energy Worker or a spiritual person, you are transformed into a special space of constant Zen.
As if by miracle, annoying people are suddenly not irritating to you at all.
This quote leads you to believe that within your new found spirituality you will now possess the much coveted “inner peace” which will equate to you never experiencing the desire to throat punch anyone ever again.
Spectactularly too, as a result, the aggravation you once experienced whenever the Over the Top “Unnamed Company” business rep corners you at the school Halloween Party her kids also attend (to tell you AGAIN about how she just earned ANOTHER free Disney Cruise just by working her business) will seemingly disappear.
It convinces you that within spirituality you will suddenly appreciate her. You will be able to say things like “It’s her journey!” And other equally zen-like statements, and as a result catapult yourself into a higher level of consciousness.
As a person who has struggled with anger and many “throat-punching-people” fantasies for years, the above quote actually became quite stressful to me.
Each morning as I woke I would vow that today would be the day!
That today no one would be able to penetrate my “Zen Barrier”. That my inner peace was strong enough to withstand the O.T.T. “Unnamed Company” Rep and the others like her.
And each day someone would not only penetrate the barrier….
They would damn well blow the barrier gates right off and leave me with a weeks worth of clean up and soul reconstruction.
Each time this would happen I would think, “Dang it! I guess, I’m still not spiritual.”
I would repeat this process over and over and over again. Each time it would break me down more and more as I would question why I could not master the peaceful mentality that clearly all other “good” Spiritual folks were living in.
And finally I learned: There is much more of a process related to this quote than what the mere simplicity of the words eludes to.
Here’s what I mean:
Is it ever possible to get to a space of peace? Sure it is. But not by simply ignoring annoying people. That’s impossible.
The process goes deeper than that.
First- what you have to know is that the Universe responds to our energy. It knows what we are trying to manifest and the energy we need to sit in in order for the said goal to come into fruition.
It also knows what programs and past beliefs we carry and which ones we need to shift out of, or rid ourselves of, in order to create the new space we want to move into.
Let me break it down with an example.
We attract what we want into our reality. We decide what we want and the Universe lines it up.
So let’s say you want to attract more money into your reality. As soon as you decide you want more money the Universe starts shifting and moving the world and the people, as needed, in order to accommodate your request.
Now, let’s say you have a belief that you don’t DESERVE lots of money though. It could be said then, that you hold a program that you are unworthy of attaining the very same money you are trying to manifest (Now this can run quite deep, but we are going to keep this light and skim the surface for the idea of this example)
Now, remember how I said the Universe is shifting and moving the world and the people in it to bring you the money you are manifesting.
It is also shifting and moving YOU to bring you money.
And one of the ways it will do that is by exposing to you the programs you carry within you.
Why would the Universe do that? In order to shift and move you into a space where you can accept and receive the money you have manifested.
How will the Universe do that? By bringing people like the OTT Unnamed Company rep into your path.
These people are triggers. Triggers expose your programs so you can move out of them and into the new space you want to be in in order to accept the money you have manifested.
So, how do you know someone is a trigger? When you feel you want to throat punch them.
When someone creates that big of reaction in you then they are absolutely a trigger. And a trigger is your opportunity to shift.
How do you shift? By being incredibly, absolutely, unequivocally honest with yourself in that moment.
You see, the Company Rep lady would create such a reaction because (once again, for example) you want to take YOUR kids on a Disneyland Cruise for free but have a belief you could never ever possibly do that.
Now, the mere acknowledgment of this will NOT make it so you suddenly become a join her business team and become a rep on her team. Nor does it mean you will suddenly become BFF’s. (Although never say never)
The dislike for her may also never receed. Yet, the growing desire to throat punch her will absolutely (mostly) dissolve.
It’s also important to know that just because you are spiritual does not mean you will suddenly love everyone.
You won’t. Ever.
But the desire to throat punch the entire population will drastically evaporate as you begin to understand WHY someone could provoke such a big reaction out of you.
And by acknowledging why someone triggers you, will also gift you the opportunity to release an old program that you carry.
It brings you a new awareness of how you view the world around you.
This new awareness will allow you to decide how you want to shift and create a new world.
So…..When someone has you gritting your teeth and biting your tongue, you will now KNOW this annoying person has a beautiful gift for you. The gift of opportunity. The gift of shifting out of the old which no longer serves us and into the new.
Recently I decided to get some photos done of JUST ME!
I have always been dedicated when it came to getting a family photo session done. I always threw out my best “business grin” and felt mediocre safety within the ability to hide my flaws behind a well placed child.
For the duration of my spiritual healing journey I have been working on loving me. But THIS year was the year that I started putting some major power behind it.
This year following my scheduled family photo session our photographer, Linell Grudnitzki did not hide her disappointment well when I requested “just ONE personal head shot for myself” done within our family session.
Linell doesn’t have a problem doing a headshot during family photos I would assume.
She just really, really felt in her heart that I NEEDED a personal session of my very own.
I personally struggled with agreeing to a session for a couple reasons:
First, there would only be me. No kids to hide behind. No husband to make me laugh. Just me.
Second, I couldn’t justify spending that money for pictures when I didn’t really have a “need” for photos.
Everything changed when I received an email containing a sneak peek of our family session. I was in love with exactly how she captured us.
So I started chatting with her (yet again) about what a personal session would “do” for me.
And found out I LOVE the way she works. I wanted to share with you all:
The old saying “ the camera doesn’t lie” is very true. I say it almost every day. But when asked how does that saying play into my photography business, and how do I do my “work”, that saying takes on an entirely different meaning.
No, the camera doesn’t lie. When me and Canons are at a shoot ( yes, I talk about my cameras as if they are people), I take a real good look at what they are showing me.
If what I see on the that LCD screen is not something amazing, it is up to me to figure out why. And by why, I don’t mean do I adjust the lighting, or bracket an F stop up or down.
I don’t know too many people that will admit that they love having their picture taken. Even the most stunning super model can feel uncomfortable in front of the lens.
I take the time and feel what my subject is feeling. Maybe the image on the back is showing a nervous female, or a frightened child, or in a lot of cases, an uncomfortable husband. It is then my job to change that and capture it.
I have always felt I have been able to connect well with people. It wasn’t until I started photographing them that I could SEE just how well I could connect with them. I am able to allow them to see themselves in a light and place where their loved ones see them from.
I can’t say that ever have I thought after a shoot “ well, that was a complete waste of my time and I didn’t get one single decent image.”
Instead at the end of a shoot, I feel I accomplished so much more than creating a few wonderful pictures. I feel I created self esteem, self worth and self love in the person who just spent a few hours with me.
And best of all, I created the physical memory and image of that moment for them.
Isn’t she incredible? When she described to me how she works, what she sees, and why she does what she does, I just knew that my soul need to do this!
And as much as this may sound arrogant — I am in love with a HUGE portion of the photos she took that day. I haven’t loved pictures this much, since the photos we had taken in 2008. So that’s saying ALOT!
Lastly I want to share one more incredible little story. It’s in regards to this picture:
I have a confession to make. I have perfected a fake smile. Years of needing to survive within a storm created my opportunity to perfect the fake smile.
I have had many photographers, but Linell was the very first one to call me on it.
This photo was taken when I got tired. I was exhausted from being SO REAL. So I threw out the fake smile.
She dropped her camera to her chest and says “WHAT. IS. THAT?!”
I tried again and again. But kept throwing out the fake. Until I finally dropped my head and took a big breathe and realigned with showing up again. For real.
And I absolutely LOVE that Linell seen right through my fake smile. It validated that she feels her clients and does EXACTLY what she said she does above.
But it also forced me to stay present. As soon as I got tired, I wanted to hide away and do what’s comfortable. She demanded more of me; but in the most loving and safest way.