I Did These 3 Non Traditional Things and Lost 35 Pounds

I recently lost 35 pounds. It has been significant enough that people have started to comment when they see me “Wow, you look great. What have you been doing?”

And then I get all awkward and say “Nothing” Because what I have been doing is weird and “hoopy-doopy” and non-traditional.
So then they begin to prod further. “C’mon, you gotta be doing something”

While I just shrug and mull in my mind a way to explain what I have been doing differently, they continue on, “Have you been eating healthier.” I shake my head.

“Have you been exercising,” they ask.

I will usually giggle and reply “I don’t run. In fact, should you ever see me running, you should run too because there is a good chance there is a large bear or an ax murderer chasing me”

So what did I do? I did these three weird and “hoopy-doopy” and non-traditional things

1) I started sending love to my body

I have not loved myself, well… EVER! I thought I did. I was a “normal” woman who closely inspected her body while undressing for the shower.


Completely avoided the mirror all together while undressing for the shower. But I certainly didn’t hate myself. Well, I didn’t think I did anyway.


I certainly didn’t find myself horrific to look at. I knew I was over weight, but I hated diets and exercise so I just stayed where I was at physically.

Society has taught us that women inspect themselves for flaws. (We’ve all seen the commercials) They are to keep trying to strive for perfect. To strive for flat tummies and/or abs. To strive for thin. To strive for a vision of fashion model perfect. And the irony is, if you quiz any woman they KNOW that the fashion magazines are photoshopped. That they aren’t true representations of the model herself. We know. Yet we still hold the visual.

So we strive for perfect. We count calories. We diet. We ration our portions. We run. We exercise. We deny ourselves chocolate cake and peanut buster parfaits and wine, our beloved wine! All to aspire to be the photo of perfection that we know doesn’t exist.

And let me be clear: Some people LOVE exercise. Some people LOVE pushing their limits on a weight bench. Perfect. Honor that. But I’m not that woman. It’s hell for me. I never enjoy that process and rarely remain committed to a work out routine or diet. Could that change for me someday? Sure. But not today. And tomorrow’s not looking promising either. (Lol)

I was at a Seminar in March of 2015 for the betterment of my business as a Psychic Medium with the amazing, and incredibly talented, Jodie Rollins.

During the seminar she stated “No matter what you tell yourself about your body, it reacts. Your body is the biggest form of energy. If you believe your fat, the energy will react and bring you more. If you fill your body with love and appreciation, your body will react. No matter what you tell your body it will react.”

(I’m paraphrasing, of course, but you get the idea)

I came home with a lot from that seminar that weekend, but this had to be the most

For those of you who have worked with me in the past or attending a live empowerment show, you’ve heard me say “I’m a tangible girl. Don’t just tell me something is going to work, prove it to me”.

I don’t teach anyone anything I haven’t proven myself. I don’t know why, but so far it’s seemed to work out that way.

(Sorry I went off on a little tangent there)

I came home from the seminar and began testing the theory. Each night as I undressed for the shower instead of inspecting my body for flaws, I began sending love:

Thank you stomach for housing THREE beautiful kids for nine months until they were strong enough to come into this world.

Thank you hands for holding my coffee to my lips each morning so I can start my day with my smile.

You get the point. On and on I went throughout my entire body. And although I began to lose weigh it wasn’t significant, but my body did shift. I lost about 5 lbs with sending my body love.

So then came the next step. The step so big that when it was suggested to me, it literally made me sweat. My body had such a HUGE reaction to the mere IDEA that I put it off. For weeks.

Finally nearly two weeks later, in full out sweat, I took the next step.

2) I created “I love myself” visual reminders

Armed with neon orange sticky notes, I embellished each slip of paper with bold, black letters that stated “I LOVE MYSELF”

I placed them every where. I swear I did. And my housekeeper would vouch for me as she had to clean around more than one.

I placed them in my bathroom on the mirrors. In my fridge on the shelves where I could see them. Inside every cupboard I used daily. Inside my phone case. In my truck. EVERYWHERE.

Each time I saw them I would take a breathe and recite in my head “I love myself” and then breathe out. That’s it.

They, also, created a fun reaction in our home. Each time my husband or my oldest son, went for milk or cups they would declare, I love myself!! It was awesomely supportive and so great to have everyone (who could read) reciting these words too.

I should add: Loving yourself does not make you boastful or arrogant or self-righteous. Loving yourself brings you peace. Instead of looking to others for compliments or to fill your cup of self worth — you go within. It’s beautiful and creates a personal strength.

And when you finally do receive a compliment from someone, it will be a nice, extra little gift to you that you can hold onto with your already existing self love.

The compliment will become the icing on the already existing cake. Instead of depending on someone else to provide the cake AND the icing. (Yep, I love cake that much to
create an analogy around it lol)

3) I listened to my body and honoured it

The last thing I did was honor my body. I began to eat what my body wanted. ANYTHING it wanted. I am so serious when I say ANYTHING. For the first week I, literally, ate a Dairy Queen Peanut Buster Parfait EVERYDAY! People find this step the most unbelievable.

Maybe it was my body or maybe it was my mind who was craving the parfait, but regardless I didn’t deny myself any craving.

Very soon I stopped craving the snacks that are deemed by society as “unhealthy” and started craving other foods. A variety of foods. Sushi, chicken (lots of chicken for some reason) and salad!

I’m now eating things because I want to and not because someone else said I could or could not. Eatinfg them because I have listened to my body and honoured it. No denying anything. I can’t even tell you what’s a “good fat” or “bad fat” or what a carb is. It doesn’t matter to me anyway. If my body wants chicken – it gets chicken. And if wants ice cream, yep I eat ice cream.

No denying. No portion control. No more telling myself if I can have something.

This step was perhaps the most empowering because society has created a laundry list of foods that are good or bad. Healthy or unhealthy. But remember your body reacts no matter what you tell it.

So go ahead, tell your body that what you just ate has a TON of sugar and will cause you to grow another ass cheek OR tell your body – if this is what we want this is what we will have.

Just imagine for a moment the energy you create when you give yourself a “cheat day”. You are telling your body: “Everything I’m putting in my body is BAD” and so you are sitting in that BAD rebellious energy all day. Please stop causing yourself this type of guilt.

How did I listen to my body. Before preparing supper each night I sat with each meal option in my mind. And would imagine eating it. Let yourself imagine the taste, texture etc. Do you still want to eat that?? If yes, honor it. If no, continue imagining different meals options until your excited about what you are preparing.

I started these processes one year ago. But seen significant changes in my body when I implemented Steps 2 & 3.

I don’t have the usual before and after pictures because, quite frankly, I was a HUGE skeptic who didn’t believe this shit would actually work (lol), and most certainly didn’t expect 35 pounds of weight loss. But I promise you, it indeed does work! Do I guarantee you a weight loss. Nope because that will get me sued. But I do guarantee a peace of mind. And self love!

Now, I’m sure you can understand why I get awkward when someone asks about my weight loss. Because it’s ALOT to tell people. It’s a lot for people to absorb. But it’s also a lot of weight to lose without owning the HOW!

*Funny little side story. An acquaintance recently asked what I had been doing and I was feeling rather brave that day so I tell her all I have just written above and her reply was priceless.

With huge eyes and complete awe she asked “wow that is Oprah worthy — do you know Oprah??!”

Bahahaha – ummmm no, but maybe someone could hook a sister up!

I would love to hear from you if you decide to try this. Be patient and kind to yourself. It’s a beautiful process. <3

Thank you for sharing in my journey.


How My Daughter Is Helping Me Stand In My Power


This is my lil princess.  She is four and was given the honor of “no mommy opinions” on her outfit yesterday.  This was the result that was posted on my facebook page yesterday.

Now don’t get me wrong, when I say there was “no” mommy opinions I should actually state, there was minimal mommy opinions.  In fact, let me even more clear – there was a beginning of a mommy opinion (as my sister will attest to, as she was on the phone with me while the outfit choosing was happening) and I TRIED to encourage her that this outfit does not match.  But Miss E did not want to hear anything regarding my opinions on her fashion choices.

So let’s run through the outfit together – just in case you think your eyes are failing you.

Miss E is sporty a tres chic leopard print faux fur jacket complete with white fur and gold adornment.  She showcases (under the jacket) a beautiful “My little Pony” themed sleeveless sundress (with a white sweater to make up for the lack of sleeves).  Under the sundress, staying within the ‘My Little Pony’ theme are leggings with her favorite horsey friends…keep in mind said leggings are from a completely different outfit all together.  On her feet you will find super fun and brightly striped socks in every girls favorite colors of pink and ORANGE.  Topped with Hello Kitty sparkle shoes.   Of course no outfit would be complete without her Sofia the First Sunglasses and her WINTER mittens  because she had the sniffles. (Her theory, not mine)

WOW!!!  And dang, did we get looks.  Looks from teachers, smirks from parents and one dad, waiting in his truck in the bus bay, actually laughed out loud, appreciatively, and then gave me the thumbs up.
Now let me be perfectly honest.  This is the VERY first time EVER that ANY of my kids have been permitted to leave the house in this state.  Don’t get me wrong, they have had some small outfit casualty from time to time, but NOTHING like this bag-lady chic she is showcasing her.

And it made me think.  Why have I never afforded my children this freedom.  And so I’m about to be honest……

Because I couldn’t handle what others parents would think of me.  Honestly!! I lived in constant fear and under the misbelief that if my child didn’t look perfect at any given time in public that somehow I was a bad parent,  Or atleast would be viewed as such.

Over the past year, I have worked so hard on saying “Fuck it”  — and I own the book by this very title.  And slowly but surely, I am embracing concepts within the pages.  One is to stop caring what people think.  Really…who gives a shit if people think anything of you – be it good, bad or inbetween.

I have also logged MANY hours with my Life Coach on this very topic.  Who was the one to set me on the “Fuck it” path.

By allowing Miss E to have the freedom to wear what SHE chooses, she is learning to stand in her power.  She was so excited to show off her outfit of favorites to her brothers when we picked them up after school.  She didn’t care, at all, what anyone thought of her outfit.  She stood in her power, so confidently.  She could teach me so much.

We all need to stop caring about what anyone thinks of us.  And not in a “fuck you” space, but in an “I love myself” space.  Do you feel the energetic difference in those two statements?  Once you are in a space where you can truly appreciate YOU, love YOU and are happy with YOU, you are awarded a peace.  A peace of mind and a peaceful heart..

Yesterday I captioned this photo:
On the days kids dress themselves they should come with a sign that states “Don’t judge my mommy – I did this to myself”

To which one mom replied that she in fact made her child a pin to wear on these days that stated exactly that “I dressed myself.”  And let me be clear – I love the freedom this homemade pin afforded the mom – to allow her child to dress however they wanted them and rewarded them with this super fun pin.  So great!

But yesterday I posted this reply:
Truthfully I would make her a pin. But I really need to learn to say Fuck it. I don’t care what people think. If someone honestly thinks this was my outfit of choice for her then I guess it is what it is.

I did try to fight her today about what to wear but honestly at her age THIS is her independence. She doesn’t get to choose what to eat or when to go to bed and most certainly can’t cross the street alone. So for now she’s gonna rock this outfit.

And I will learn to stand in my power and be ok with her choice. I love how my kids constantly teach me!

Buuuut should you find the colourful pin – I would be interested in borrowing it lol

And in that moment I realize, I am actually doing it. I’m actually beginning to break down the walls of “What do they think” and replacing them with “Fuck it”  A year ago, NEVER would I have allowed my child to leave the house in this outfit.  NEVER!!  I would have fought with her and went to the wall to make her “appear appropriately” in public.

Because I would have been embarrassed.  I would have felt the need to justify to anyone we passed, she dressed herself.  And then make fun of her outfit with them.  Yesterday it made my heart ache to think of belittling her choices, just to make myself feel like a good mom infront of strangers.  Let that sink in, I was CHOOSING to belittle my daughter to help strangers find me an acceptable parent.  UGH!!!  Makes my heart hurt!!

But yesterday, my daughter helped me stand in my power, and she helped me do this, by standing in hers. Yesterday, I did NOT throw her under the bus and laugh at her choices.  I smiled.  I took a picture.  I asked her “Are you happy with that outfit”  She proudly stated “Yes, Mama”  As I took her little hand in mine, and we left the house, I looked down at her and smiled back and said “Good, then I’m happy too”

She was so incredibly happy.  She didn’t give a shit that anyone was looking at her or not.  She was happy.  In her mind, she had clothes, she had her mama and she was picking up her brothers, who she missed all day.  And whatever anyone else thought was none of her business.

I love my kids for what they are constantly teaching me.  Whether they are teaching me something new or showing me how far I have come – it doesn’t matter.  They are here on my journey and helping me every step of the way.  Love love love my kids!

AND while they are teaching me – I am allowing their independence.  Sounds like this is filled with winners all around!

Thank you for sharing in my journey


Please, Stop Glorifying Tired

You can’t glide through your social media news feed each day without seeing a meme like this:

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Or a million others that are similar.

OR we have that friend who feels the need to post everything they accomplished today.
“Feed the dog, washed the dishes, did three loads of laundry and now supper is cooking.”

Since when did being tired or constantly “on the go” become such a glorified existence.

Yep, I’m tired.  I absolutely am!  I have three kids, maintain a house, and up until February I worked.  BUT I never once felt like I need to push through tired.  Why is tired a good thing?

If you ARE tired – your body is SCREAMING at you.  It’s sending you a message to please stop.  To please have a break.  To sit and BE for one day or two days or seven days.  To sleep.  To nap.  To do anything to refill your tank.

Since when is running on empty something we brag about with our friends.  If you are tired from running your kids every where and you have been tired for the past three years – its time to consider a new life schedule.
I personally know one lady who, every single time I see her, when I say “Hey how are you?” She states “Tired” or “Exhausted”  Seriously??!!  Why?  Why are you running yourself so ragged that you are tired ALL. THE.  TIME.

Don’t get me wrong.  We get tired.  Sometimes.  But if you are constantly run down or burnt out or feeling so incredibly exhausted that THIS is the version of yourself you are presenting to the world, it’s time to reconsider what you are making a priority in life.

I get it – we are busy people.  But truthfully I hate the word BUSY!  Busy is merely an excuse so we don’t have to do the things we don’t WANT to do.  Just own it – instead of saying you’re busy – say you don’t want to.  Allow yourself the freedom of deciding – I don’t want to.  It’s ok – nothing is going to blow up.  In fact, if someone gets angry at you because you have stated “I don’t want to”  That’s their reaction – not yours.  Start setting boundaries.

Stop glorifying busy and tired.  We are creating a generation of kids who are so run ragged that they don’t know what to do with free time.  They get bored because they have no idea how to use their imagination.  They don’t have time to

I know you want to know – how do I create more time.

Here’s a couple tips:
1) Dump anything from your schedule or your kids schedule that they don’t LOVE.  If it doesn’t light you up and excite you – don’t waste your time, money or effort on it.  There is plenty of things out there that you will want to go to every week.  It shouldn’t feel like work.

2) Stop volunteering for things you hate.  Really.  If it helps think of it this way:  How you feel about something is the energy you take with you.  If you hate sitting at a registration desk for events, but you volunteer for it anyway – guess what kind of energy you are sending out from behind that registration desk.

3) If you child is NOT in 8,000 activities per year, please know they will not start to light fires and torture kitten and become bad members of society.  It is safe for them to roam the streets and hang with friends.  If you have taught them correctly they will not light fires while they are out and about.

4) Honor your body.  If you are tired, nap!  If you are too tired to clean, don’t clean today.  It will be there tomorrow.  Start to encourage your family to HELP you make meals or clean up or whatever it is to give you more time.  We are so fortunate to live in a time when men and women are equal parents, make sure everyone is pulling their weight so you can breathe.

5) No one is perfect.  We all feed our families shitty meals from time to time.  Or we don’t do the laundry each week.  Or our kids wear the same clothes to bed that they wore in the sandbox that afternoon (because they are their favorites)  Stop trying to be perfect.

6)  Don’t compare yourself with what you see on facebook.  90% of Facebook statuses are bullshit.  Seriously.  NO one is as happy or as motivated all the time as their Facebook profile will lead you to believe.  So stop doing things because you think every other parent is doing them.  Create your lifestyle with what serves YOUR family and no one else.

And most importantly, please stop denying your body what it needs.  Whether that’s sleep or time to play or create or draw and run or whatever it is that fills you.  When you honor your body, you fill your cup.  When you fill your cup – you can give more to those around you.  If you’re running on empty you can’t serve anyone.

Now go listen to your body!