Top Ten Favorite Inspirational Women of 2016: #10 – Bailey Fleck


I am a social butterfly by nature.  At the beginning of any social event my husband can always be heard telling our kids, “There she goes kids, watch Mommy flutter.”  I love meeting new people and truly do find myself fluttering around from table to table catching up with anyone and everyone.  It’s the kind of stuff that fills my soul.

Two years ago, I performed a Live Psychic Group Reading in the booming metropolis of Lumsden, SK.  The small community complex was packed and I had a wonderful night with tons of laughs and healing and while that does fire me up and excite me, my favorite is still always meeting the people who attend the events.

(And I mean the ACTUAL physical 3D people who attend, not just Spirit.)

The Lumsden Show is where I met Bailey Fleck. From the moment I met her, I was literally in awe of her.  She has the brightest and kindest eyes I have ever encountered which mirror her gorgeous soul.

Here’s a Lana confession so brace yourself:  As much as I love fluttering and meeting people in real life, I find social media truly exhausting at times.  I find people show up in a way that portrays them in “the best light” even if it means they have fluffed the truth a bit. Genuine moments are few and far between when it comes to social media.

Bailey is my bright light on my Social Media Friends List.  Her love for her life radiates through and anytime she pops up on my newsfeed, I find myself smiling at her mere presence in my world.  Honestly, although I don’t know Bailey as well as some of the other ladies I will be showcasing this week, I wouldn’t trade her for anything.

Any one who has a chance to hang out with this lovely soul, will quickly feel as blessed to know her, as I do. She moves through life with such integrity and honesty and she is stunningly refreshing.

This week as I scrolled my Facebook feed Bailey struck again with this beauty of a video she posted. Watch right to the end….

Did you see her eyes smile?  Ahhh, isn’t she adorable??!! I gotta say: I borderlined on creepy when this video slid across my newsfeed because I watched it over and over and over again just to see her eyes smile.  Adorable!

After I was done with the eye smiles, I HAD to know what lipstick she is selling in this video.  Because I don’t know about you, but within 20 minutes of a lipstick application I look like a …well, lets just say it’s not pretty as my make up application techniques can be questionable at best, let’s just leave it at that….so a SMUDGE FREE LIPSTICK is exactly what I need in my world.

Sign. Me. Up!

If you want to get some of this fabulousness too you can visit Bailey’s Facebook Group – Let’s Get Lippy with Bailey & Dee (Bailey is in biz with her equally adorable mom, Dee! Seriously, I’m beginning to think the bright and bubbly persona is DNA specific!)

While you’re there enter to WIN their giveaway which was launched TODAY in celebration of THIS blog post.  You have a chance to win the LipSense Starter Kit (which includes the gloss, color and remover)for FREE.  That’s a $70 value! How fun is that?!

Bailey Fleck, thank you for being a brilliant beacon in this world.  For showing up and being the truest version of you.  This beautiful young woman is an example of the ripple effect I love to talk about.  Just by BEING, just by showing up and smiling, Bailey makes me smile.

Much love to you, my girl!  Thanks for being part of my world.


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Top Ten Favorite Inspirational Women of 2016: Coming Soon!


As each year comes to close, I find myself, once again, sitting within reflection. I always take the month of December to think of what I have accomplished, where I missed the mark, and what I want next year to look like.

One of my favorite quotes of 2016 is “You are a product of the people you surround yourself with.”

Due to this quote, I also find myself reflecting on the relationships and the people I am blessed to be surrounded by.

This year I I thought it would be fun to share my reflections with you – I have dubbed it my “Top Ten Favorite Women of 2016.”

As woman we need to celebrate each other more; celebrate our uniqueness and our life journey regardless of how they differ from one another’s.

Each woman I will showcase over the next ten days is unique in who they are or how they move through life, yet each is an incredible part of the puzzle that makes up me. Each individual has touched my life and made my 2016 remarkable, just by showing up, by being authentic, and by living their passion. In addition, their products or business services have made me (and my family) happy, made us smile or given us strength in some way.

Woohoo Note:

So yah, these ladies are incredible!  I mean, I already knew that, but then this happened….  I discussed with each woman my vision for the Top Ten


They each OFFERED to provide  a discount, an opportunity or a gift, for MY readers. Seriously??  So, not only are they all incredible; they are also very generous!

Watch for the “Top Ten Favorite Women of 2016” daily starting December 5 thru December 14. And get ready to jump on the opportunity each of my “Top Ten Favorite Women of 2016” are  offering YOU!

I am confident these ladies will quickly become your favorites too!


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5 Ways To Love Yourself This Holiday Season

December 1st marks the beginning of the holiday season. 

As a kid this was my favorite time of the year.

It meant:

  1. Frilly, sparkly Christmas dresses that arched elegantly when I spun around. 
  2. Shiny black, patent leather shoes that pinched my feet. 
  3. 80’s curled hairstyles held together with Paul Mitchell hairspray, 
  4. Holiday treats stolen from my Grandma’s table throughout the entire night while we waited to open presents. 
  5. And of course,  SANTA!!

The biggest stress I faced during the holiday season was gauging my moms mood as she held a curling iron in my fine, sometimes stringy, hair while she sighed heavily as she angrily reminded me, “Sit still. I’m having a hard time breathing life into this mop of yours.”

Even her back handed comment couldn’t burst the bubble I floated in during the holiday season. It truly was the most wonderful time of the year. 

But as an adult….

There’s tree trimming, present purchases, party prep and family – lots and lots of family. And let’s not even mention the god forsaken Elf on The Shelf. 

Yep! The holiday season means work and fancy schedule juggling. 

All of this equates to MAJOR adult stresses. 

My Holiday Season bubble popped LOUDLY, about 10 years ago. It’s just too much for me.

And, if I can be honest, I have found myself daydreaming about winter vacations to Phoenix just so I can skip the entire holiday season. 

Surely I’m not alone with my Holiday Season Dread. So I have created you a list of ways to love yourself this holiday season. 

1) Scale Back

At the peak of our Christmas Clusterf**k we were literally attending Christmas dinners for the entire month of December. 

I kid you not, our first Christmas Dinner of the season was the first weekend of December with a gift exchange. And our last one was usually December 27!  During the peak, we were consuming SEVEN holiday dinners. 

It meant Christmas shopping was completed by November 30. It was crazy AND an absolute recipe for burnout. By the time the last piece of curly ribbon hit the recycle bin that year I nearly cheered with relief. 

No more!  We are now very stingy with our Christmas dinners. We do not attend Christmases for a month straight. It was not sustainable and, once again in honesty, not enjoyable for anyone. 

2) Don’t attend every party you’re invited to 

It seems like everyone we know has a holiday party. We could be kept very busy socially, if we RSVP’d yes to everyone. 

But we have decided that’s not the way we want to spend our holidays. We are also choosy with these. It’s not personal, it’s just self preservation. 

3) Don’t bake if you don’t want to

I’m not a baker. Or a cook really. I do it to keep my family alive, but I’m not going to win a “Canadian Cook Off” anytime soon. 

Sometimes I will make brownies, but that’s because I’m picky about my brownies. Using my recipe will guarantee I will like them when they are done, unlike some of the results I have had from grocery store brownies. Blech!

The holidays are the most common time for Potlucks. You get asked to bring something: A dessert. A salad. A platter etc. 

If you hate baking etc. BUY IT!! It’s more common than you think. Don’t put unneeded stress on yourself. Take shortcuts wherever you can. 

3) Create Boundaries

There will be people who disrespect you. And it’s your job to decide how they will affect you. (Not only during the holidays, but all year long too)

Decide what you want to do about the way you’re being treated. There are times when standing in your power is necessary and times when this will create unnecessary drama and it’s best to walk away. 

Decide and implement your boundaries. And don’t let anyone change your mind. 

4) Don’t compare yourself to others

We all have the one person during the holidays who seems to own the best clothes or have the greatest hairstyles. Or is just plain adorable. She graces the doorsteps of any party and people swoon — wishing they could have her closet or her hair or her personality, even for just one day. 

And quickly, you feel like you have ordered your clothes from the “Hillbilly Hoedown Holiday Edition Magazine”

So while you dress for your holiday party remember: You are perfect exactly as you are. Wear what makes you comfortable. Style your hair in a way that makes you happy. And most importantly, be YOU!

Going to an event in clothes or hairstyles you are uncomfortable wearing (or faking your way through the evening) will exhaust you faster than running a marathon in a snowsuit during a Sasky blizzard. 

5) Observe without plugging in (This one is for all my empath friends)

As empaths we have the ability to FEEL everything. We know Susie had a fight with their husband on the way to the party. We know George hates his job. We know Grace is seriously over the top in love with her new BF!

AND we know exactly who, at the party, hates being at the party. 

So what do you do when the everyone’s energy is so easily available to you and quickly you begin swirling in the emotion of it all?

Observe without plugging in. 

What does that mean?

Just because you can see it doesn’t mean you need to form an opinion or create  a solution in your head.  Just observe it. Snuggle up with some wine and watch the show. 

Don’t get invested in the outcome. Quite honestly, Susie’s fight with her husband is probably causing you more anxiety than it is to Susie. You may have spent more time analyzing Susie’s feelings than, even, Susie herself has. And there is no point wasting your time and energy on something that is none of your business. 

Eventually you won’t even need to observe anymore. You will be able remain unplugged completely. But that can take time. 

The Holiday Season can be fun again. Somehow we’ve allowed ourselves to get tumbled up in expectations of others which creates exhaustion. Allow yourself to create your holidays in a way that makes you happy. Find the balance. 

Bonus Tip: You do not have to explain your balance to anyone. Just find the balance that makes you happy. 

Let the festive season commence!

The Reason I View Annoying People As A Special Gift From The Universe!

There are many spiritual phrases that float around Social Media. And often these phrases are misunderstood. 

One that has become quite popular, all while creating much confusion, and triggering feelings of unworthiness is this one:

The less you respond to negative people, the more peaceful your life will become

It eludes to the belief that with spirituality or a higher awareness comes peace. That suddenly as an Intuitive or Energy Worker or a spiritual person, you are transformed into a special space of constant Zen. 

As if by miracle, annoying people are suddenly not irritating to you at all. 

This quote leads you to believe that within your new found spirituality you will now possess the much coveted “inner peace” which will equate to you never experiencing the desire to throat punch anyone ever again. 

Spectactularly too, as a result, the aggravation you once experienced whenever the Over the Top “Unnamed Company” business rep corners you at the school Halloween Party her kids also attend (to tell you AGAIN about how she just earned ANOTHER free Disney Cruise just by working her business) will seemingly disappear. 

It convinces you that within spirituality you will suddenly appreciate her. You will be able to say things like “It’s her journey!” And other equally zen-like statements, and as a result catapult yourself into a higher level of consciousness. 

As a person who has struggled with anger and many “throat-punching-people” fantasies for years, the above quote actually became quite stressful to me.

Each morning as I woke I would vow that today would be the day! 

That today no one would be able to penetrate my “Zen Barrier”. That my inner peace was strong enough to withstand the O.T.T. “Unnamed Company” Rep and the others like her. 

And each day someone would not only penetrate the barrier….

They would damn well blow the barrier gates right off and leave me with a weeks worth of clean up and soul reconstruction. 

Each time this would happen I would think, “Dang it! I guess, I’m still not spiritual.”

I would repeat this process over and over and over again. Each time it would break me down more and more as I would question why I could not master the peaceful mentality that clearly all other “good” Spiritual folks were living in. 

And finally I learned:  There is much more of a process related to this quote than what the mere simplicity of the words eludes to.

Here’s what I mean:

Is it ever possible to get to a space of peace?  Sure it is. But not by simply ignoring annoying people. That’s impossible. 

The process goes deeper than that. 

First- what you have to know is that the Universe responds to our energy. It knows what we are trying to manifest and the energy we need to sit in in order for the said goal to come into fruition. 

It also knows what programs and past beliefs we carry and which ones we need to shift out of, or rid ourselves of, in order to create the new space we want to move into. 

Huh what?? 

Let me break it down with an example. 

We attract what we want into our reality. We decide what we want and the Universe lines it up. 

 So let’s say you want to attract more money into your reality. As soon as you decide you want more money the Universe starts shifting and moving the world and the people, as needed, in order to accommodate your request. 

Now, let’s say you have a belief that you don’t DESERVE lots of money though. It could be said then, that you hold a program that you are unworthy of attaining the very same money you are trying to manifest (Now this can run quite deep, but we are going to keep this light and skim the surface for the idea of this example)

Now, remember how I said the Universe is shifting and moving the world and the people in it to bring you the money you are manifesting. 

It is also shifting and moving YOU to bring you money. 

And one of the ways it will do that is by exposing to you the programs you carry within you. 

Why would the Universe do that? In order to shift and move you into a space where you can accept and receive the money you have manifested. 

How will the Universe do that? By bringing people like the OTT Unnamed Company rep into your path. 

These people are triggers. Triggers expose your programs so you can move out of them and into the new space you want to be in in order to accept the money you have manifested. 

So, how do you know someone is a trigger? When you feel you want to throat punch them. 

No seriously!

When someone creates that big of reaction in you then they are absolutely a trigger. And a trigger is your opportunity to shift. 

How do you shift? By being incredibly, absolutely, unequivocally honest with yourself in that moment. 

You see, the Company Rep lady would create such a reaction because (once again, for example) you want to take YOUR kids on a Disneyland Cruise for free but have a belief you could never ever possibly do that. 

Now, the mere acknowledgment of this will NOT make it so you suddenly become a join her business team and become a rep on her team. Nor does it mean you will suddenly become BFF’s. (Although never say never) 

The dislike for her may also never receed. Yet, the growing desire to throat punch her will absolutely (mostly) dissolve. 

It’s also important to know that just because you are spiritual does not mean you will suddenly love everyone. 

You won’t. Ever. 

But the desire to throat punch the entire population will drastically evaporate as you begin to understand WHY someone could provoke such a big reaction out of you.  

And by acknowledging why someone triggers you, will also gift you the opportunity to release an old program that you carry. 

It brings you a new awareness of how you view the world around you. 

This new awareness will allow you to decide how you want to shift and create a new world. 

So…..When someone has you gritting your teeth and biting your tongue, you will now KNOW this annoying person has a beautiful gift for you. The gift of opportunity. The gift of shifting out of the old which no longer serves us and into the new. 

And THAT’S what the quote above means. 

Thank you for sharing in my journey. 

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The Camera Doesn’t Lie

Photo Courtesy of Linell Grudnitzki, Inphoto

Recently I decided to get some photos done of JUST ME! 

I have always been dedicated when it came to getting a family photo session done. I always threw out my best “business grin” and felt mediocre safety within the ability to hide my flaws behind a well placed child. 

For the duration of my spiritual healing journey I have been working on loving me. But THIS year was the year that I started putting some major power behind it. 

This year following my scheduled family photo session our photographer, Linell Grudnitzki did not hide her disappointment well when I requested “just ONE personal head shot for myself” done within our family session. 

Linell doesn’t have a problem doing a headshot during family photos I would assume. 

She just really, really felt in her heart that I NEEDED a personal session of my very own. 

I personally struggled with agreeing to a session for a couple reasons: 

First, there would only be me. No kids to hide behind. No husband to make me laugh. Just me. 

Second, I couldn’t justify spending that money for pictures when I didn’t really have a “need” for photos. 

Everything changed when I received an email containing a sneak peek of our family session. I was in love with exactly how she captured us. 

So I started chatting with her (yet again) about what a personal session would “do” for me. 

And found out I LOVE the way she works. I wanted to share with you all:

The old saying “ the camera doesn’t lie” is very true. I say it almost every day. But when asked how does that saying play into my photography business, and how do I do my “work”, that saying takes on an entirely different meaning. 

No, the camera doesn’t lie. When me and Canons are at a shoot ( yes, I talk about my cameras as if they are people), I take a real good look at what they are showing me. 

If what I see on the that LCD screen is not something amazing, it is up to me to figure out why. And by why, I don’t mean do I adjust the lighting, or bracket an F stop up or down.

 I don’t know too many people that will admit that they love having their picture taken. Even the most stunning super model can feel uncomfortable in front of the lens. 

I take the time and feel what my subject is feeling. Maybe the image on the back is showing a nervous female, or a frightened child, or in a lot of cases, an uncomfortable husband. It is then my job to change that and capture it. 

I have always felt I have been able to connect well with people. It wasn’t until I started photographing them that I could SEE just how well I could connect with them. I am able to allow them to see themselves in a light and place where their loved ones see them from.

 I can’t say that ever have I thought after a shoot “ well, that was a complete waste of my time and I didn’t get one single decent image.” 

Instead at the end of a shoot, I feel I accomplished so much more than creating a few wonderful pictures. I feel I created self esteem, self worth and self love in the person who just spent a few hours with me. 

And best of all, I created the physical memory and image of that moment for them.

          -Linell Grudnitzki, Inphoto

Isn’t she incredible?  When she described to me how she works, what she sees, and why she does what she does, I just knew that my soul need to do this!

And as much as this may sound arrogant — I am in love with a HUGE portion of the photos she took that day. I haven’t loved pictures this much, since the photos we had taken in 2008. So that’s saying ALOT!

Lastly I want to share one more incredible little story. It’s in regards to this picture:

Photo Courtesy of Linell Grudnitzki, Inphoto
 I have a confession to make. I have perfected a fake smile. Years of needing to survive within a storm created my opportunity to perfect the fake smile. 

I have had many photographers, but Linell was the very first one to call me on it. 

This photo was taken when I got tired. I was exhausted from being SO REAL. So I threw out the fake smile. 

She dropped her camera to her chest and says “WHAT. IS. THAT?!” 

I tried again and again. But kept throwing out the fake. Until I finally dropped my head and took a big breathe and realigned with showing up again. For real. 

And I absolutely LOVE that Linell seen right through my fake smile. It validated that she feels her clients and does EXACTLY what she said she does above. 

But it also forced me to stay present. As soon as I got tired, I wanted to hide away and do what’s comfortable. She demanded more of me; but in the most loving and safest way. 

Love it. And Love her!

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Homeschooling: Day 54ish – Today We Threw Out All Our School Books

{I had a nifty picture of our recycle bin filled with our discarded workbooks especially for this post, but somehow I deleted it. I’m still working in the tech requirement of all of this lol}😉

So these past few weeks have been emotional to say the least!  I took a break from the blog because of a nasty cold that swept our house.

The week after that the shit hit the fan here. Although the storm took me by surprise, looking back it probably shouldn’t have.

Over the past weeks, our homeschool had slowly modified itself. And I didn’t even realize it.

Somehow we, ok fine….I became swept up in school district requirements and cirriculum standards. I began focusing our days with the “what if they go back to school” mentality.

As a result, there was a lot of focus on completing everything required to MATCH that of a public school.

I had printed schedules and regimented deadlines.

And then the double edged sword slammed straight into my chest.

Math!  It’s always Math, the bastard that it is.

According to our Cirriculum requirements B needed to be complete with the unit we were working on. Yet we still had minimum of 11 more days of work to complete.

Why were we behind?? Because he didn’t understand it. He didn’t grasp the concepts and I wanted to ensure he did before we moved on.

Everyone knows Math builds upon itself and I didn’t want to have to back track.

But more importantly, I didn’t want to crush any of his precious self esteem we have recently re-established.

I wanted him to get Math, and not move forward because Cirriculum dictates.

PLUS we were reading books in LA, that neither of the boys cared about at all.

AND Social Studies and Science were horrifically boring. Not in anyway interesting or FUN.

And as a result, they were squirmy and messing around, ALOT.

And I was yelling ALOT, in a hopes to keep them focused. And yelling never works, I know that.

When the storm finally hit, my throat was hoarse, I was completely spent and unhappy and so were the boys.

After a much needed session with my coach, I realized:

This is NOT how I wanted this to go. At. All.

I was one bell away from replicating a public school classroom. And my poor boys were hating it.

Yes, I want my kids to learn what’s required within the Cirriculum standards, but I wanted it to be FUN. I wanted to create a learning space that they loved.

I know they may not exactly skip to the table and would always rather go to the park or watch YouTube videos of people opening kinder eggs.

(Seriously?? This is a thing? Wow!)

But I atleast wanted them to get their Cirriculum fed to them in a way that will stick with them long after the year is over.

Also I realized that my kids will not remember anything from the way I was doing it.

How can I say that?? Because neither boy can tell me ONE thing they learned last year. And they had incredible teachers, so it’s not because of that. But because the technique did not speak to thing or excite them.

So, yah last week every single guided workbook was thrown out. (Except Math because while I pride myself on being uber creative, I’m still not a magician!)

And we redid our schedule and the approach we use.

In LA, for example: My boys are currently researching their favorite YouTube stars and building poster board presentations with their information THEY have researched.

And they love it. They are so happy with their new day and are excited with what they are working on.

My proof that this was a better way came on Thursday when I had a meeting I needed to attend.

Upon telling the boys they get to wrap early and miss LA, B says “Awe dang it. Can I still work on my report?”  Ummmm, YES!!!!

The worst part about this whole mess was I KNEW this way wasn’t working, but I had printed ALOT of stuff off and didn’t want to waste the paper. Sounds ridiculous saying it, but it’s the truth.

Last week I learned, somedays you have to kill a tree to find your way.

And besides….it’s getting recycled 😎

Thanks for sharing in our journey!

Medium & Psychic Work: It’s Not A Gift. It’s An Ability; A Business.

Theresa Caputo can be credited for bringing a new awareness to the works of the Psychic Medium industries. 

She has allowed millions of people across the globe the opportunity to see how Psychic and Medium abilities work. Couple that with her big hair and her big personality and you have yourself a hit show. 

People often ask me if I think “she’s real” and yes I do!! But let’s not forget — it’s a TV show. They have edited and re-edited that tape to broadcast the biggest reaction. 

That’s not to say she doesn’t have a real ability. I absolutely believe she does. But does she, for example, go up to everyone at Walmart and just read strangers while the camera is rolling. I highly doubt it. She would be sued. 

While its guaranteed there is some of the show that is staged to appear as though the reading is happening on a whim (when it’s actually done completely with consent) I am confident that her ability is in no way staged

On a side note: I’ve often said I would love to see the bloopers reel showcasing those customers at Walmart who tell her to “get the hell away from them.”  Because the truth is not everyone views the Mediumship abilities with a rosey, woohoo excitement. 

I certainly love Theresa Caputo. I quote her while at the hairdresser. As Chanda goops up my hair in hopes to achieve the optimum volume, I can often be heard stating, with satisfaction,”The higher the hair, the closer to heaven!” 

Yes, indeed I am a HUGE fan of her!

There is one thing, however, that Theresa Caputo does that makes me cringe. 

It happens during the intro of her show while she is introducing herself, she says, “….I have a very special gift. I can talk to spirit.”

Now many of you are wondering why this could possibly be an issue!


Mediumship and Psychic abilities are not a gift and yet, she seemingly indicates them as such.  

Making it sound as though this ability is held, and only attainable, by a select few who have been chosen by a higher source. 

The truth is Mediumship is not a gift. It’s an ability. An ability that any Medium worth their hourly rate has spent hours honing into a business.

Theresa and I (and all other Mediums) have chose to spend our time building our ability into a business. And that right there, is the only difference between you and any Medium or Psychic. 

We are not special. It’s a business that takes as much work to maintain as any other business out there. (We just happen to “maintain” our business within a scope that is foreign to many)

We’ve created our business by understanding our signs and signals from Spirit. We have worked with Mentors and Coaches to better understand how the flow of energy works. We’ve logged numerous hours understanding how people sit in their energy and what that even means. 

But make no mistake, we are not a special hybrid breed of the human species. 

And the truth is, each and every one of you have the ability to do what we do. It’s built into you. You can work and learn and create a business too. 

On a side note:  

If you are a NEW Medium to the industry, please hone your gift. Please spend the time and money it takes to become a professional. 

Take classes. Work with a mentor. Create this business with the same level of dedication you would create any business with. 

Please! For the integrity of the industry. 

If you are not interested in creating a business, then please do not read people at Walmart just to “see if you can.”

(In fact, even if you do have a business please don’t read people at Walmart. It’s incredibly unprofessional)

Accountants don’t ask to see your income statements at Walmart, just  “to see if they can” make it balance. 

Please honor our industry with the same sincerity. 

Thank you for sharing in my journey.

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Oh My! This Energy Though

This Energy!  Phew!  Can you feel it?  This world is hurtling towards something big. 

Right now, the world is charging forward at mind boggling speed. I don’t know what exactly is going on, but dang it, it’s big.

Not only are many of us beyond exhausted, and our children are boycotting any sentiment towards a sleep schedule, Social Media and News Programs are bubbling over with big opinions. 

So many of us are standing in our power and screaming to be heard over the rush of forming crowds. 

People love Trump. People hate Trump. People love Hilary. People hate Hilary. People who are going to miss Obama. People who can’t wait to see Obama go. 

People who love Trudeau. People who hate Trudeau. People who love pot. People who hate pot. 

People who love immigration. People who don’t want any more immigrants. 

But it’s not just political opinions. 

People are fighting for breastfeeding in public. People are against breastfeeding in public. 

People love black coffee. People hate black coffee. 

People love Mondays. People hate Monday’s. 

People who love their body. People who hate people who love their body. 

And on and on it goes. 

But really it all boils down to this. 

We all want to be heard. We all want to be validated. 

(And the rest of us want to wrapped up and told that no matter what happens we are all going to be ok.)


We know that our world needs change. And some of us feel strong enough or loud enough (or whatever other quality qualifies us as a change maker) to push these changes into action. 

But words on social media are not actions. 

ACTION is action.

This week during our Circle Time in our Homeschool, we read “If A Bus Could Talk – The Story of Rosa Parks.”

This courageous black woman remained sitting on her seat on the bus even after she was told to relinquish her seat to a white man. 

Her single courageous action against segregation triggered the start of the Montgomery Bus Movement where all African Americans boycotted using any buses for 381 days. 

The Montgomery Bus Movement then created a similar country wide movement. 

The country wide movement, as well as the action of many others, then became historically known as the Civil Rights Movement. 

This is an incredible example of the ripple effect in action. One single act on December 1, 1955 ignited a ripple effect that eventually assisted in equality. 

My favorite line in the entire book was found within its second last paragraph:

“We love you and we thank you for being the lady who, by sitting down, inspired others all over the world to stand up for freedom.”

And while I understand that this equality issue is, unfortunately, still a problem today, the point is many people want change. They want something different than what this world currently is. 

But perhaps we could take a page from the Rosa Parks story. She didn’t scream and yell, “Please validate me.”  

She sat and waited. And the change created itself thereafter. 

Her action was carried out in complete silence. Yet, still, the ripple was heard (and felt) around the world. 

While speed typing your response on social media to today’s “Hot Topic” perhaps we should consider what ACTION we could do, instead, to shift the world. 

Sometimes we think in order to formulate change we have to get loud. Scream, kick, yell and spit. 

Yet, not all changes are started because of public protests or pickets or mean and slanderous remarks for people to take notice.  

Some of us an incapable of such public guestures. But rest assured, change can happen just as simply as remaining seated while everyone is saying “Stand”

Perhaps with this in mind, we can all navigate this big energy from a new space of mindfulness. 

As Rosa Parks has proven, change will still occur.  

(Ps – It’s not Rosa Parks birthday – just to save confusion. Her birthday is February 4, 1913.)

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(Repost by Request) I lost 35 Pounds By Doing These Three Non-Traditional Things

I recently lost 35 pounds. It has been significant enough that people have started to comment when they see me “Wow, you look great. What have you been doing?
And then I get awkward and say “Nothing” Because what I have been doing is weird and “hoopy-doopy” and non-traditional.

So then they begin to prod further. “C’mon, you gotta be doing something”

While I just shrug and mull in my mind a way to explain what I have been doing differently, they continue on, “Have you been eating healthier.” I shake my head.

“Have you been exercising,” they ask.

I will usually giggle and reply “I don’t run. In fact, should you ever see me running, you should run too because there is a good chance there is a large bear or an ax murderer chasing me”

So what did I do? I did these three weird and “hoopy-doopy” and non-traditional things

1) I started sending love to my body

I have not loved myself, well… EVER! I thought I did. I was a “normal” woman who closely inspected her body while undressing for the shower.


Completely avoided the mirror all together while undressing for the shower. But I certainly didn’t hate myself. Well, I didn’t think I did anyway.


I certainly didn’t find myself horrific to look at. I knew I was over weight, but I hated diets and exercise so I just stayed where I was at physically.

Society has taught us that women inspect themselves for flaws. (We’ve all seen the commercials) They are to keep trying to strive for perfect. To strive for flat tummies and/or abs. To strive for thin. To strive for a vision of fashion model perfect. And the irony is, if you quiz any woman they KNOW that the fashion magazines are photoshopped. That they aren’t true representations of the model herself. We know. Yet we still hold the visual.

So we strive for perfect. We count calories. We diet. We ration our portions. We run. We exercise. We deny ourselves chocolate cake and peanut buster parfaits and wine, our beloved wine! All to aspire to be the photo of perfection that we know doesn’t exist.

And let me be clear: Some people LOVE exercise. Some people LOVE pushing their limits on a weight bench. Perfect. Honor that. But I’m not that woman. It’s hell for me. I never enjoy that process and rarely remain committed to a work out routine or diet. Could that change for me someday? Sure. But not today. And tomorrow’s not looking promising either. (Lol)

I was at a Seminar in March of 2015 for the betterment of my business as a Psychic Medium with the amazing, and incredibly talented, Jodie Rollins.

During the seminar she stated “No matter what you tell yourself about your body, it reacts. Your body is the biggest form of energy. If you believe your fat, the energy will react and bring you more. If you fill your body with love and appreciation, your body will react. No matter what you tell your body it will react.”

(I’m paraphrasing, of course, but you get the idea)

I came home with a lot from that seminar that weekend, but this had to be the most profound.

For those of you who have worked with me in the past or attending a live empowerment show, you’ve heard me say “I’m a tangible girl. Don’t just tell me something is going to work, prove it to me”.

I don’t teach anyone anything I haven’t proven myself. I don’t know why, but so far it’s seemed to work out that way.

(Sorry I went off on a little tangent there)

I came home from the seminar and began testing the theory. Each night as I undressed for the shower instead of inspecting my body for flaws, I began sending love:

Thank you stomach for housing THREE beautiful kids for nine months until they were strong enough to come into this world.

Thank you hands for holding my coffee to my lips each morning so I can start my day with my smile.

You get the point. On and on I went throughout my entire body. And although I began to lose weigh it wasn’t significant, but my body did shift. I lost about 5 lbs with sending my body love.

So then came the next step. The step so big that when it was suggested to me, it literally made me sweat. My body had such a HUGE reaction to the mere IDEA that I put it off. For weeks.

Finally nearly two weeks later, in full out sweat, I took the next step.

2) I created “I love myself” visual reminders

Armed with neon orange sticky notes, I embellished each slip of paper with bold, black letters that stated “I LOVE MYSELF”

I placed them every where. I swear I did. And my housekeeper would vouch for me as she had to clean around more than one.

I placed them in my bathroom on the mirrors. In my fridge on the shelves where I could see them. Inside every cupboard I used daily. Inside my phone case. In my truck. EVERYWHERE.

Each time I saw them I would take a breathe and recite in my head “I love myself” and then breathe out. That’s it.

They, also, created a fun reaction in our home. Each time my husband or my oldest son, went for milk or cups they would declare, I love myself!! It was awesomely supportive and so great to have everyone (who could read) reciting these words too.

I should add: Loving yourself does not make you boastful or arrogant or self-righteous. Loving yourself brings you peace. Instead of looking to others for compliments or to fill your cup of self worth — you go within. It’s beautiful and creates a personal strength.

And when you finally do receive a compliment from someone, it will be a nice, extra little gift to you that you can hold onto with your already existing self love.

The compliment will become the icing on the already existing cake. Instead of depending on someone else to provide the cake AND the icing. (Yep, I love cake that much to create an analogy around it lol)

3) I listened to my body and honoured it

The last thing I did was honor my body. I began to eat what my body wanted. ANYTHING it wanted. I am so serious when I say ANYTHING. For the first week I, literally, ate a Dairy Queen Peanut Buster Parfait EVERYDAY! People find this step the most unbelievable.

Maybe it was my body or maybe it was my mind who was craving the parfait, but regardless I didn’t deny myself any craving.

Very soon I stopped craving the snacks that are deemed by society as “unhealthy” and started craving other foods. A variety of foods. Sushi, chicken (lots of chicken for some reason) and salad!

I’m now eating things because I want to and not because someone else said I could or could not. Eatinfg them because I have listened to my body and honoured it. No denying anything. I can’t even tell you what’s a “good fat” or “bad fat” or what a carb is. It doesn’t matter to me anyway. If my body wants chicken – it gets chicken. And if wants ice cream, yep I eat ice cream.

No denying. No portion control. No more telling myself if I can have something.

This step was perhaps the most empowering because society has created a laundry list of foods that are good or bad. Healthy or unhealthy. But remember your body reacts no matter what you tell it.

So go ahead, tell your body that what you just ate has a TON of sugar and will cause you to grow another ass cheek OR tell your body – if this is what we want this is what we will have.

Just imagine for a moment the energy you create when you give yourself a “cheat day”. You are telling your body: “Everything I’m putting in my body is BAD” and so you are sitting in that BAD rebellious energy all day. Please stop causing yourself this type of guilt.

How did I listen to my body. Before preparing supper each night I sat with each meal option in my mind. And would imagine eating it. Let yourself imagine the taste, texture etc. Do you still want to eat that?? If yes, honor it. If no, continue imagining different meals options until your excited about what you are preparing.

I started these processes one year ago. But seen significant changes in my body when I implemented Steps 2 & 3.

I don’t have the usual before and after pictures because, quite frankly, I was a HUGE skeptic who didn’t believe this shit would actually work (lol), and most certainly didn’t expect 35 pounds of weight loss. But I promise you, it indeed does work! Do I guarantee you a weight loss. Nope because that will get me sued. But I do guarantee a peace of mind. And self love!

Now, I’m sure you can understand why I get awkward when someone asks about my weight loss. Because it’s ALOT to tell people. It’s a lot for people to absorb. But it’s also a lot of weight to lose without owning the HOW!

*Funny little side story. An acquaintance recently asked what I had been doing and I was feeling rather brave that day so I tell her all I have just written above and her reply was priceless.

With huge eyes and complete awe she asked “wow that is Oprah worthy — do you know Oprah??!”

Bahahaha – ummmm no, but maybe someone could hook a sister up!

I would love to hear from you if you decide to try this. Be patient and kind to yourself. It’s a beautiful process. <3

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Throwback Thursday

I am a huge believer that everything happens for a reason. Everything we do, even if it seemingly based around the development of our children always has a bigger reason and most certainly an effect on us, as an individual, as well. 

Today we launched into B’s newest Math component. Ok, I will be honest we launched into aforementioned Math component two days ago, but neither B nor I could understand ANY of what we just “learned”

So we had resolved to try again next math class. 

We dove in today with a new found zest for all things Expressions and Equations related..but it quickly went sideways. 

For Me. Not B!

I read the question to myself:

Write the expression:

Ten less the product of a number and 4

And, in the spirit of being honest, I think to myself, “Mottttthhhherrrrrfuuuuckkker! What the hell does that even MEAN?!”

Pardon my French, but I’m being honest here 😂

But I managed to keep my colourful expletive to myself and keep my best “teacher smile” plastered on my face. 

I read the question to myself again:

Ten less the product of a number and 4

And then it happens. 

As tears begin to blur my vision and the question distorts to an unlegible mess before my very eyes, I am transported back to Grade 7 all over again. 

12 year old Lana sits with her Math textbook and tears blur her vision. She doesn’t get it. And can’t wrap her head around this shit. And anger bubbles up. She pushes it down. 

Back in present day, with tears lingering on my lashes, I say to B, “I need a second!” 

B grants me the gift of solitude and retreats downstairs to join his siblings on the XBox.  He can be overheard saying, “We need to give Mom a minute. Nobody bug her. Math made her cry!”

His compassion causes the threatening storm of tears to break wide open. And I cry!

Ok, I sob. 

Ok, I ugly cry. 

I cry for all the times I didn’t understand (Math or otherwise). I cry for all the times I didn’t ask for help. I cry for all the times I told myself, “Everyone else understands this, but you!”

Five minutes I cry. And then it was as though someone flipped a switch. I knew what I had to do with this. 

I call B back upstairs. When he hesitantly asks, “You ok?” I explain with complete truth: “Ugh B, I hate Math. I am confident I only passed because I remembered to write my name and the proper date on top of the paper.”

He laughs and says, “It’s ok Mom. I think the same thing happened to me last year!”  Bahaha. In truth he’s probably not lying. And bless him for that. 

Today I healed something although I’m not entirely sure what. 

But I also taught my son that Math can be hard. He’s not alone in his struggle and most certainly is not “less than” as a result. And he learned to ask for help when he needs it. No shame in not understanding. Ever!

Now let’s hope this little healing will allow me to get a grasp on Grade 7 Algebra. 

Ps: The answer to the above question is 4x -10

My husband is going to teach me what that means when he gets home tonight 😁😆

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